Isn't the entire point of the profile and matching system to filter incompatible people out? Why can I match with 50 people and not a single one wants to get a coffee or something after exchanging a few pleasantries? Everybody hates these things and yet they refuse to do anything IRL to get off them. Is there some Manchurian candidate activation codeword that I'm missing? I feel like everyone treats this shit solely as an ego booster and actually gets pissed off that anyone tries to interact with them. How do you meet people in hellworld if you don't drink?

Me after dozens of dead-end back-and-forths that lead to nowhere despite having shared interests and presumably being attracted to each other since we matched: marx-joker

Hmm, maybe it's the extreme commodification of relationships and atomization under capitalism that prevents you from getting anywhere with this garbage thinkin-lenin

Nope, must be because @SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net didn't say my favorite "The Office" quote and send me a playlist with 50 of the greatest songs I've never heard that made me instantly fall in love with them. I have no idea what other people expect from these things but I'm not doing labor for someone that I don't even know is real. Thanks for reading my rant, any advice is appreciated.

  • Rolder@reddthat.com
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    1 year ago

    Society teaches us that randomly hitting on people is generally in poor taste and looked down upon. I’d expect that’s why it doesn’t happen as often

    • ThereRisesARedStar [she/her, they/them]
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      1 year ago

      Its weird, because that paradigm seems to result in cis men and people with power over other people just finding fun new ways to do sexual harassment so it isnt even useful.

      • CthulhusIntern [he/him]
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        1 year ago

        Throwing the baby out with the bathwater also makes people more miserable in the not-harassing way, because without that practice, people don't know how to respectfully make advances, and people also don't know how to respectfully but clearly turn down advances, and still have a healthy view of the person, which puts even more people on the apps.