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  • redfern45 [none/use name]
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    4 years ago

    I'm 30. I had a late start to my career but might be okay once I make my next move. My wife had $80,000 in private debt from undergrad. We are luckier than most, but between rent and loan payments still can't really afford to have a kid for like... 4-5 more years at this rate. again, We are luckier than most. Id love to have kids but my daily live is stressful enough already without worrying about those expenses.

      • redfern45 [none/use name]
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        4 years ago

        Yeah I get that and at this point I think i'd also be okay not having any. Its more the idealist that still exists within me where i'd make enough money to shield them from the effects of climate change, as chauvinist as that might seem. Even if I got to the point where we could afford it; Its still a tossup to me whether its moral or not to do. im certainly not anti- natalist but I just dont know for myself personally.

        • TransComrade69 [she/her,ze/hir]
          hexagon
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          4 years ago

          I'm brutally anti-natalist. I think it's selfish to bring life into this wretched world understanding the socio-economic devastation that child will have to endure later in life while there are also over 400,000 children in the foster care system. But that's just me. I don't have the emotional or financial capacity to foster children now, but I'd like to think in my 40s I could be the Evelyn Mercer of fostering teens and giving them the necessary guidance and support to enter and flourish in adulthood.