My daughter (16F) has refused to eat dog meat for about a year. Although we all enjoy a nice dog steak, me, my husband and her brother (14M) have tried to be as supportive as possible.
We aren't a family that eats dog meat daily, so it wasn't that hard for me to accommodate her. When I do cook dog meat, I also make something else for her and keep the side dishes common for all. She does have some seperate dishes, but most are common and I clean it if I have to cook for her.
Few months into refusing to eat dog meat, she tried to convince us to stop eating it too and would get increasingly angry when we said no. Me and husband shut that behaviour down hard and told her that she can follow whatever diet she wanted, but she cannot expect others to. She sulked for a while, but stopped doing that.
Last weekend, I cooked the family a big pot of chilli (a small dog-free one and a large one made from one of our Labradors, Cooper), so that I can refrigerate it and use for the next week. Next day, I found the fridge empty of both the chilli and turns out, my daughter decided that we were are being too callous about dog meat. She felt the smell was "too much" when she opened the fridge door and that she can't anything from the fridge after that without gagging or puking. She told me that I need to throw out all the dog-free food in the fridge and restock them.
Me and my husband were livid. Wasting food is never okay with us and that was a lot of food. I told her I am going to continue using the products in the fridge and she can either eat it or not, but I am not wasting food. That whole week she kept making faces at dinner while she ate.
As a punishment, I gave her the recipe and told her she needs to cook Max (another one of our Labradors) next weekend. She yelled and begged, but I stood firm. In the end, she did it.
When the cooking was finished, I told her that wasting food is never okay in this house and pointed out that instead of x amount of dog meat being used, 2x amount of dog meat (Since this seems to be confusing. I meant as in x amount in the pot she wasted + x amount in the new one. I didn't purposefully make her put more than what was used previously) was used because she threw the food away.
Now, she started crying and yelling at me about how awful and disgusting I was because I not only paid someone to kill Max (which my daughter is very much against), I also forced her to cook him and now I am also telling her that it was her fault.
She is really upset about this. So, I am wondering if I went too far. Should I have picked a different punishment? My husband and brother definitely think what I did was right while my parents thinks I was in the wrong.
I thought I will put it to a vote. AITA?
You must live in an interesting area. You should come around Utah sometime. The Mormons will feed just about anybody but sadly they get to like decided what it is. When my mom would do it she would just get handed a sheet by the local Bishop all filled out by him. When my parents got divorced we so dirt poor that this stuff is all I had to eat for a long time. Perhaps there was an option like you say and I am just making as ass out of myself, but as you can see on that link its not really friendly in telling what is and isn't vegan. I am just trying to figure out how you feed people in situations where they have no choice. Sure you can walk away from stuff like the Mormon welfare programs but like is that really an option for long in an area like Utah?
most of that stuff is vegan. most things are vegan. your parents didn't want to be vegan, and there's nothing wrong with that. anytime i've literally had zero access to meat it sucked. some people just want to eat meat, and there's nothing wrong with that.
it doesn't mean you have to attack vegans as boogie though.
most of the options on that mormon welfare sheet you just showed were vegan shit, save for the meat categories, dairy categories, desserts, honey, and the soups
Did ya miss the part where I told you that the Bishop fills it out for you?
And playing the blame game really does work to push people towards your ideology. I would keep it up.
regardless, your parents ate meat because they felt like it. a bag of rice is the cheapest shit ever, and most of the things that they provided you with were likely vegetables and pasta, just like everywhere else. you ate meat because you were a child of meat eaters. and if you don't want to eat meat/dairy now you don't have to. there are tons of cheap, affordable options to not eating meat/dairy.
you do not have the right to attack vegans as doing so because they're wealthy, and the only premise i can come up with that you would do so is because you feel guilty for eating meat and feel the need to attack people who refuse to.
sorry, but get over yourself.
Please keep it up with the garbage takes. I actually like being chastised like this. It kind of getting me a little hot.
Nobody is chastising you tbh, I’m not a vegan and I often find vegans obnoxious but I can’t understand your position in this particular instance. It seems like you’re determined to feel victimized by this post somehow.
You don't see how someone can get defensive about being attacked for something as simple as trying to survive? What am I missing out of this to clarify things for ya?
Nobody is attacking you for trying to survive, I can read all the comments, that hasn’t happened one time.
The argument here is a moral one is it not? When you look at the link in OP its all about shaming people about eating pets. By saying that people like my and my family choose to eat meat when we lived off church donations its kind of an attack dont ya think? That is how I read things here.
No, it’s not an attack. He just took a literal post from somebody else complaining about their vegan daughter and changed it to dog instead of cow to make the daughter’s position more sympathetic, for humor. If you read the post again you may notice that it doesn’t mention you or your family at all.
sorry that you need to attack other people to elevate yourself and put people down for doing something that you'd obviously like to do but don't have the self control to do.