One of the funnier things about college/YA life is how much people I know will nickel and dime each other about shared expenses. I knew people who were the closest of friends who would demand a venmo over 4$ worth of coffee instead of you know, just paying for the whole ticket and the other person gets next. Or the time I ordered like 3 pizzas for a social function last minute and multiple people asked me how much they owed me for a slice like jesus christ just enjoy the pizza
I too must've been raised weird because this is an annoying thing I've encountered as well. I'm willing to pay for pizza for DnD night rather than sit down and start dividing the cost of it between everyone; for one thing I don't want someone at the table to stop themselves from taking another slice because they feel they're going over their payment. I'm not strictly against dividing the cost up between everyone, but I am if it means people will get upset about going over your 'investment'. Heck, I'll order several and that way we don't have to pick a pizza type we'd all be fine with, instead we can get multiple flavors.
Speaking as someone who until recently was permenantly skint and has now got to 'not quite skint' there's a reason for this.
I would always pay my share and I would never accept a round of drinks except when it was blatantly clear it wasn't expected I'd get one in because when I went out I had a strict amount to spend.
I didn't want to be seen as scrounging or mooching off my richer friends who really had very little understanding of what it's like to be skint. If someone offers to pay for pizza one week, great - but that means at some point in the near future I have got to find 40 quid or whatever. Even if I am not paying for the previous few weeks, if I'm really skint I just can't put that money aside because saving that kind of money when you are skint just isn't possible.
Also if everyone pays their share, I can get cheaper options, plain pizza or a pint of something cheap. That means I can spend less and still enjoy a night out.
If you've got a group of people with significantly different incomes, everyone paying their own way just works better.
I too must've been raised weird because this is an annoying thing I've encountered as well. I'm willing to pay for pizza for DnD night rather than sit down and start dividing the cost of it between everyone; for one thing I don't want someone at the table to stop themselves from taking another slice because they feel they're going over their payment. I'm not strictly against dividing the cost up between everyone, but I am if it means people will get upset about going over your 'investment'. Heck, I'll order several and that way we don't have to pick a pizza type we'd all be fine with, instead we can get multiple flavors.
Speaking as someone who until recently was permenantly skint and has now got to 'not quite skint' there's a reason for this.
I would always pay my share and I would never accept a round of drinks except when it was blatantly clear it wasn't expected I'd get one in because when I went out I had a strict amount to spend.
I didn't want to be seen as scrounging or mooching off my richer friends who really had very little understanding of what it's like to be skint. If someone offers to pay for pizza one week, great - but that means at some point in the near future I have got to find 40 quid or whatever. Even if I am not paying for the previous few weeks, if I'm really skint I just can't put that money aside because saving that kind of money when you are skint just isn't possible.
Also if everyone pays their share, I can get cheaper options, plain pizza or a pint of something cheap. That means I can spend less and still enjoy a night out.
If you've got a group of people with significantly different incomes, everyone paying their own way just works better.
sounds like you were raised "with money".