Yes TG. But most of all, I just feel like if people really were taught how to communicate the needs and express their wants properly and in a non-judgemental way. So many of the fucking issues just wouldn't exist in first place 😅. I was really mindfucked by the ghostings. You meet someone, they are hella attracted, everything is perfect and then the next day... GHOSTED. This shit has become so common now. Very annoying curve in the dating world in this 5 years of a gap 😅
I 'used' OkCupid. Not anymore, since I found it way fucking superficial. Working on my real life skills. Especially with a brown skin, I am defaulted to be a creepy person so I am trying my extra best to not be one. But racism, indeed plays a big role, even in the most progressive set of people on different levels. Dating surely is hit by that.
Yes, I am very well aware of that. Especially from my last long term relationship I have understood a lot about setting my personal boundaries and such and such. So this time, I am really not rushing things at all. I, personally, don't like the idea of marriage in first place. Rather it is just that if I want to live with someone for long time, I would rather have my financial shit figured out and in Germany it's a benifit if you are married w.r.t taxing savings and all. I think, I just wanted to say that I wish to stay that longer in a relationship, not marriage as the ultimate goal or whatsoever. So I would never bring up such naive long term issues until I guess I am in 1+ years of relationship with someone.
But, anyway, yes! I need to still control on my early emotional investment in someone. I think it is rooted from the culture I come from.
Nothing to worry about. I am not a troll, I just found this community a few days ago and on Reddit I found it was just a mess of an answers when these kind of questions are asked.
I get it. I would really support this newly found community if it stays to its ethics. But these bad apples, I tell yaaaa.