Tranarchy [e/em/eir,fae/faer]

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Joined 4 years ago
Cake day: September 6th, 2020
  • Tranarchy [e/em/eir,fae/faer]tomain•*Permanently Deleted*
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    4 years ago

    Sending you all my love and support! :heart-sickle: I don't know if you already know about these, but until or if you feel safer trying them out here, there's http://www.pronouns.failedslacker.com/ and https://www.reddit.com/r/TransTryouts/ which might help you explore xe or any other pronouns if you'd like a little bit?

  • Tranarchy [e/em/eir,fae/faer]tomain•*Permanently Deleted*
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    4 years ago

    Long comment oof sorry. Here's why I prefer neopronouns.

    They/them is often used when you don't know the the persons gender. Or as a catch all. Or by people who just want to stay anonymous. So when someone is referred to as they/them, they could be non-binary, but they could also be binary.

    The thought of a few people still assuming that I'm binary when I'm referred to by they/them makes me a bit dysphoric. NOWHERE near as dysphoric as with he/she, but it's still there. With neopronouns they're almost exclusively used by non-binary people. So basically I want to be explicitly acknowledged as non-binary.

    I do usually go by they/them in 99% of the spaces I'm out in though. Because even though it makes me a bit dysphoric, even getting people to use they/them is enough of a fight sometimes, and neopronouns is so often ridiculed even by otherwise accepting people. Like right now this and another place are the only two I list neopronouns (well in the English speaking I mean, in my first language neopronouns are the only option, there's no neutral), and in the other one (which is a trans space) only because people there literally asked me if i would prefer that, and were very supportive.

    I wish some people didn't have to think they need to fully understand why it's important to someone, for them to accept it. Having to constantly defend one's identity is exhausting, and I'm far from the only one that just defaults to using they/them even though it feels bad.

  • Tranarchy [e/em/eir,fae/faer]tomain•Two hot takes fresh off the presses. 1) You're a lib for not setting pronouns. 2) If you're going to post images of dead bods please put "NSFL" in the title.
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    4 years ago

    A lot of cis people love saying ''trans rights'' until they're asked to show the tiniest bit of solidarity. How can we expect you to have our backs when you can't even be bothered to click a button?

    And I understand that many don't see it as being a big deal, but normalizing it really is. I've been to leftist spaces irl where I haven't felt safe sharing my pronouns because they didn't mention it so I had no idea if they were terfs or not. (At least one did turn out to be terf though ew but still) And accepting being misgendered in leftist spaces because I don't know if it's safe or not just fucking sucks.

    And I know it's different in anon online spaces, I'm not scared to share my pronouns here, but again it helps normalizing it. /end rant