Long comment oof sorry. Here's why I prefer neopronouns.
They/them is often used when you don't know the the persons gender. Or as a catch all. Or by people who just want to stay anonymous. So when someone is referred to as they/them, they could be non-binary, but they could also be binary.
The thought of a few people still assuming that I'm binary when I'm referred to by they/them makes me a bit dysphoric. NOWHERE near as dysphoric as with he/she, but it's still there. With neopronouns they're almost exclusively used by non-binary people. So basically I want to be explicitly acknowledged as non-binary.
I do usually go by they/them in 99% of the spaces I'm out in though. Because even though it makes me a bit dysphoric, even getting people to use they/them is enough of a fight sometimes, and neopronouns is so often ridiculed even by otherwise accepting people. Like right now this and another place are the only two I list neopronouns (well in the English speaking I mean, in my first language neopronouns are the only option, there's no neutral), and in the other one (which is a trans space) only because people there literally asked me if i would prefer that, and were very supportive.
I wish some people didn't have to think they need to fully understand why it's important to someone, for them to accept it. Having to constantly defend one's identity is exhausting, and I'm far from the only one that just defaults to using they/them even though it feels bad.
thank you for this. I've been thinking of experimenting with xe as a pronoun but I've been afraid because of people's shitty reactions here. I have gotten made fun of so much for being different bc I'm autistic that I'm wary of standing out more.
How I feel with pronouns is that he/
she/they all feel equally bad to me so I don't care. But maybe if I find the right neopronoun, I'd feel some gender euphoria instead. Idk, gonna have to sit with this for awhile but thank you for sharing this :heart-sickle:
oh nooo I'm so sorry. you deserve to feel safe and welcome here. if you'd like to experiment with pronouns in a smaller/safer setting, there's always discord. :af-heart:
Sending you all my love and support! :heart-sickle: I don't know if you already know about these, but until or if you feel safer trying them out here, there's http://www.pronouns.failedslacker.com/ and https://www.reddit.com/r/TransTryouts/ which might help you explore xe or any other pronouns if you'd like a little bit?
Long comment oof sorry. Here's why I prefer neopronouns.
They/them is often used when you don't know the the persons gender. Or as a catch all. Or by people who just want to stay anonymous. So when someone is referred to as they/them, they could be non-binary, but they could also be binary.
The thought of a few people still assuming that I'm binary when I'm referred to by they/them makes me a bit dysphoric. NOWHERE near as dysphoric as with he/she, but it's still there. With neopronouns they're almost exclusively used by non-binary people. So basically I want to be explicitly acknowledged as non-binary.
I do usually go by they/them in 99% of the spaces I'm out in though. Because even though it makes me a bit dysphoric, even getting people to use they/them is enough of a fight sometimes, and neopronouns is so often ridiculed even by otherwise accepting people. Like right now this and another place are the only two I list neopronouns (well in the English speaking I mean, in my first language neopronouns are the only option, there's no neutral), and in the other one (which is a trans space) only because people there literally asked me if i would prefer that, and were very supportive.
I wish some people didn't have to think they need to fully understand why it's important to someone, for them to accept it. Having to constantly defend one's identity is exhausting, and I'm far from the only one that just defaults to using they/them even though it feels bad.
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I'm so sorry about all the shit people have directed specifically towards you and your pronouns here, and singling you out. It's so fucking digusting!
thank you for this. I've been thinking of experimenting with xe as a pronoun but I've been afraid because of people's shitty reactions here. I have gotten made fun of so much for being different bc I'm autistic that I'm wary of standing out more.
How I feel with pronouns is that he/ she/they all feel equally bad to me so I don't care. But maybe if I find the right neopronoun, I'd feel some gender euphoria instead. Idk, gonna have to sit with this for awhile but thank you for sharing this :heart-sickle:
oh nooo I'm so sorry. you deserve to feel safe and welcome here. if you'd like to experiment with pronouns in a smaller/safer setting, there's always discord. :af-heart:
Sending you all my love and support! :heart-sickle: I don't know if you already know about these, but until or if you feel safer trying them out here, there's http://www.pronouns.failedslacker.com/ and https://www.reddit.com/r/TransTryouts/ which might help you explore xe or any other pronouns if you'd like a little bit?
thank you so much, this is great!
I wish you didn't have to do this but this is well said. solidarity!
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THIS Well put!
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