Remember, it’s the queer people who are cringe.

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  • Budwig_v_1337hoven [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    Man, I can't even dunk, this is just so sad. Don't self-mutilate your psyche, folks, don't romanticize this incredibly liberal conception of a man as an island and instead embrace the people who love you and tell them that you love them back. :heart-sickle:

    • ALiteralWrecker [they/them]
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      2 years ago

      Gotta break out that bell hooks:

      The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an individual is not successful in emotionally crippling himself, he can count on patriarchal men to enact rituals of power that will assault his self-esteem.

      For a lot of these dudes, the raw sexism is a natural outgrowth of internalizing patriarchy so hard that they start performing those rituals of power on themselves. In the same way that cops give themselves PTSD by training themselves to imagine would-be killers lurking around every corner for their every waking moment. The call is truly coming from inside the house.

      • Budwig_v_1337hoven [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        On themselves and others within their 'community', yeah. I wonder how far gone people usually already are when they decide to enter and stay in one of these toxic acid baths masquerading as online communities, wherein collective self-mutilation of this style is not only encouraged but rationalized as the only possible response to suffering

        Go read bell hooks, folks, especially the rocking dudes of you

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          24 hours ago

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    • SadStruggle92 [none/use name]
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      2 years ago

      Don’t self-mutilate your psyche, folks, don’t romanticize this incredibly liberal conception of a man as an island and instead embrace the people who love you and tell them that you love them back.

      I would like to, but really the only person/people that I can think of that are included there are my sister, her kids, and my granddad. I don't see any of them much, I'm probably gonna see less of them when I get to moving out, and one of them isn't gonna be around for very much longer.

      And also, with regards to like emotional support, there's not a whole lot I can realistically ask of any of those parties myself.

      • Budwig_v_1337hoven [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        The point was more to openly express your love for whatever people there are in your life, and to stop internalizing harmful self-images; to do the best with what you have. But yea, I'm aware that not everyone has these people in their lives, or is separated from them. This is, of course, where only collective struggle against capitalist alienation can provide lasting relief.

        If it's any consolation, I don't think you really need a ton of people in your life to be contend. It's more about the quality of the relationships than the quantity, so if there are only a few people in your life you feel actually close to, with whom you can be somewhat vulnerable - that can be enough, or at least it is for me. It's probably 'normal', for whatever that's worth.