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  • Circra [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    Everyone has periods when they feel alienated and utterly alone, scorned by the world etc. Etc.

    When I was a teenager the answer seemed to be to goth up, smoke very bad hash in the graveyard and drink snakebites.

    Actually thinking about it, a lot of the goths at my school were girls so I dunno where the fuck the idea its only men who can feel like this comes from.

    • GreenTeaRedFlag [any]
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      2 years ago

      Women generally have more emotionally engaged friendships and support networks because stoicism isn't encouraged as much.

      • Frank [he/him, he/him]
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        2 years ago

        It's also that generally neither men nor women are taught to care about the mental health or social connection of men. Men generally can't get emotional support from women, either. Women won't extend that kind of intimacy and often actively derride the need for it. To get that kind of emotional support and intimacy as a men you almost have to find some kind of counter-culture group where people have put the work in to untangle their role in patriarchy and the expectations placed on them by patriarchy.

        Speaking from personal experience. I'm drowning in isolation and lonliness but I can't seem to communicate that to any of my friends. No one ever asks how I'm feeling even though all my social media posts and communications for the last few years have been screaming in pain. It sucks.

        • GreenTeaRedFlag [any]
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          2 years ago

          Women are expected to do emotional labor for men, but I agree that once a man needs help it is almost impossible to get it. I hope you can find some better people for emotional help. :meow-hug:

      • UlyssesT [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        Pop-stoicism, the distorted kind practiced by unfuckable hate-nerds, is a hell of a drug.

        • GreenTeaRedFlag [any]
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          2 years ago

          Classical stoicism has some flaws, but us a very fascinating philosophy and can be very useful. Modern stoics universally suck and need to stop being emotionally stunted weirdos

      • Circra [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        Makes a lot of sense. They gravitate to a sorta weirdish sense that they are basically the centre of the universe cos far less effort or expectation is put on them to see it otherwise maybe.