I think the whole "americana is when you move out of the home when you're 18/graduate" is probably the most devious social engineering done by capitalism.
Families are support networks, even if you don't have a kid yourself someone else would have and you can focus on supporting them.
From a south asian islamic perspective, I don't know why crackers have a culture of hating their parents and fucking them over later in life with retirement homes (it's probably just capitalism tho).
From a south asian islamic perspective, I don't know why crackers have a culture of hating their parents and fucking them over later in life with retirement homes
Speaking as a cracker that came from neglectful parenting; It's because their parents hated them and fucked them over early in life. Many of us had to be parents to our own parents while they took everything from us.
The thing is that most people have no other option. If you work full time, live far away from your parents, and have other responsibilities, how can you take care of them? Getting good home health workers is very hard and expensive. Letting the parents move in may be impractical due to housing costs, and may also ruin your marriage if you have one. It's put them in a nursing home or let them die alone and not be found for days, usually.
From a south asian islamic perspective, I don't know why crackers have a culture of hating their parents and fucking them over later in life with retirement homes (it's probably just capitalism tho).
I think the whole "americana is when you move out of the home when you're 18/graduate" is probably the most devious social engineering done by capitalism.
You answered your own question. Their parents boot them out of the house when they're 18, so there's a degree of resentment that carries over as the parents grow old. There's also a reverse dynamic where the parents treat their kids like complete shit since "well, they're going to be out of the house at 18 anyways." Here's my impression dealing with cultures that haven't had their family dynamic get ruined by Anglo culture: there's a mutual understanding by the parents and the kids that the parents need to rely on their kids later in life, so the parents can't burn bridges lest the kids decide to just fuck off and abandon the parents. The kids also can't burn bridges since the parents are their main gateway to their extended family. The lack of generational housing also means the kids are unable to help their parents too. What happens to parents who are old enough that they get completely tired from buying groceries? Obviously, their kids aren't going to fly half-way across the country to buy groceries from Walmart and fly half-way back to their homes.
Anglo culture is perversely anti-family. You have dictatorial parents who raise ingrate kids and ingrate kids who grow up to become dictatorial parents.
I think the whole "americana is when you move out of the home when you're 18/graduate" is probably the most devious social engineering done by capitalism.
Families are support networks, even if you don't have a kid yourself someone else would have and you can focus on supporting them.
From a south asian islamic perspective, I don't know why crackers have a culture of hating their parents and fucking them over later in life with retirement homes (it's probably just capitalism tho).
Speaking as a cracker that came from neglectful parenting; It's because their parents hated them and fucked them over early in life. Many of us had to be parents to our own parents while they took everything from us.
You're a cracker? I thought you were an owl
Crackerfied owl. I am so sorry
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A lot of that is because those parents hated their kids and fucked them over early in life with child abuse.
The thing is that most people have no other option. If you work full time, live far away from your parents, and have other responsibilities, how can you take care of them? Getting good home health workers is very hard and expensive. Letting the parents move in may be impractical due to housing costs, and may also ruin your marriage if you have one. It's put them in a nursing home or let them die alone and not be found for days, usually.
You answered your own question. Their parents boot them out of the house when they're 18, so there's a degree of resentment that carries over as the parents grow old. There's also a reverse dynamic where the parents treat their kids like complete shit since "well, they're going to be out of the house at 18 anyways." Here's my impression dealing with cultures that haven't had their family dynamic get ruined by Anglo culture: there's a mutual understanding by the parents and the kids that the parents need to rely on their kids later in life, so the parents can't burn bridges lest the kids decide to just fuck off and abandon the parents. The kids also can't burn bridges since the parents are their main gateway to their extended family. The lack of generational housing also means the kids are unable to help their parents too. What happens to parents who are old enough that they get completely tired from buying groceries? Obviously, their kids aren't going to fly half-way across the country to buy groceries from Walmart and fly half-way back to their homes.
Anglo culture is perversely anti-family. You have dictatorial parents who raise ingrate kids and ingrate kids who grow up to become dictatorial parents.
my dad went hindutva and wants me dead for being trans so it's kind of hard not to meet like with like