Things that are so obvious and ingrained that no one even thinks about them.

Here’s a few:

All US americans can go to Mexico EASILY. You’re supposed to have a passport but you don’t even need one (for car/foot crossing). Versus, it’s really hard for Mexicans, who aren’t wealthy, to secure a VISA to enter the US. I’m sure there are corollaries in other geo-regions.

Another one is wealthy countries having access to vaccines far ahead of “poor” countries.

In US, we might pay lip service to equal child-hood education but most of the funding pulls from local taxes so some kids might receive ~$10000 in spending while another receives $2000. I’m not looking it up at the moment, but I’m SURE there are strong racial stratas.

  • poppy_apocalypse [he/him, any]
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    8 months ago

    This is pretty insignificant, but it fucking drives me nuts. Whenever a couple goes somewhere and takes the woman's car, the man drives. It's like some silly power dynamic that is built into all M/F relationships in the US.

    • ZapataCadabra [he/him]
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      8 months ago

      Me in my hetero cis relationship where my strong beautiful girlfriend drives everytime.

    • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]
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      8 months ago

      Holy shit how defensive my mother's husband was over his NEED to ALWAYS be the driver, ESPECIALLY in his big truck, even as a child it confused me.

      • 7bicycles [he/him]
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        8 months ago

        being driven around is gay unless you pay for it then it's alpha because control fetish

    • Orannis62 [ze/hir]
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      8 months ago

      Coming out has made me realize there are so many little weird rituals and dynamics in straight relationships that just go totally unnoticed. Queer relationships are such a breath of fresh air

    • Philosoraptor [he/him, comrade/them]
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      8 months ago

      I usually drive around town because my wife is often high as shit, but she usually drives on road trips because we get there several hours earlier.

    • Abracadaniel [he/him]
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      8 months ago

      Lol this happens often with me but my partner & I both hate driving so it's an act of service more than anything.

    • Adkml [he/him]
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      8 months ago

      Would really appreciate it if somebody would convince my girlfriend to help defeat gender norms by letting me be passenger sometime.

    • TheLepidopterists [he/him]
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      8 months ago

      My wife hates being a passenger and I basically only drive if she has a migraine or isn't present. I don't know why someone would have a hangup about it, it's nice.

    • bubbalu [they/them]
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      8 months ago

      Flexing and driving my boyfriends car because he gets tired.

    • FALGSConaut [comrade/them]
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      8 months ago

      It's the little things like this that make me so thankful I got the parents I have. They've always split driving 50/50, or at least close enough that it never crossed my mind growing up that driving was the man's duty or whatever weird power trip some guys make it.

      Edit: also along the same lines, whenever you see a (outwardly hetero) couple on a tandem bike it's almost always the man out in front with the woman staring at his back

      • charlie
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        8 months ago

        My parents were divorced and both never dated or re-married, they sorta accomplished the same thing!

    • WIIHAPPYFEW [he/him, they/them]
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      8 months ago

      Out of my parents my dad is EASILY the worse driver, he doesn’t even put his seatbelt on half the time

    • zed_proclaimer [he/him]
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      8 months ago

      In my experience this is more on a case-by-case basis based on the couple in question. Some people just don't like to drive, and some other people really hate being a passenger while someone else is driving. Often it lines up that it can be win-win.

    • bubbalu [they/them]
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      8 months ago

      My mom's (italian-american) husband is so on this tip. And he has to be the last person to order at a restaurant.

    • SerLava [he/him]
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      8 months ago

      very true and usually, but not always, the man's fault

    • ClimateChangeAnxiety [he/him, they/them]
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      8 months ago

      I’m so happy my girlfriend prefers to drive, being high in the passenger seat is so much better. If I could never be behind the wheel of a car again I’d die happy.

    • Pulptastic@midwest.social
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      8 months ago

      I ask my wife to drive, no matter the car, but she only does it on long road trips. However, on long trips she'll drive more than half just so I drive the bad parts like Chicago or Munising.