I call myself “ostensibly cishet” because I look very much like a straight man, but I certainly don’t feel like a man and live in an area where my life would be destroyed if I referred to myself as something else
My use of language in the above sucks, but as a kid, I would always hang out at “the girls table” or in “the girls section” because the guys would always pick on me. It’s made life super difficult because when I meet a friend who is a woman now and ask them to hangout, their assumption is always that I want a partnership.
I literally only have one female friend who isn’t like this. It’s gotta be the fucking patriarchy right
Anyways, it’s so fucking lonely.
Why are apps only for people looking to fuck/get into relationships :/
I have way more female friends than male. They say it’s because they feel safe around me. I give off very strong platonic vibes because I’m not really attracted to women unless there’s a super strong connection and even then it usually ends up being more platonic than anything else with the rare exception.
I don’t like being around men that much because most of the conversations are shallow, repetitive, and extremely bigoted. The male friends I have are much more open-minded and that’s because I’m very selective about who I befriend
The shallowness and repetitiveness of male interactions really kill me. One of my male friends only wants to talk about internet bullshit. It's painful. I hope to god that's not how I make people feel.
How would straight white dudes bond without racism and misogyny?
In my case it’s mostly straight brown men saying that shit
I like to show my 💍 or mention my wife earlier in the conversation. Also that it was me rather than her who suggested couple therapy.