if you call everyone dude and a transfem person gets mad about it, don't get defensive. just say like "sorry, i won't do it again" and don't argue "actually it's gender neutral" or "i call everyone dude". even if you do, i guarantee she's heard that argument from someone who very much does not call people they see as women dude. i certainly have
same goes double for the word guy.
(I was making a joke, if someone asks me not to call them something, I'm not gonna call them the thing) Allright bud![hst-gun hst-gun](https://www.hexbear.net/pictrs/image/e52988d9-c347-44f2-a2b9-a3f21626f414.png)