I got in a fight with my dad and it fucking sucks. He sent me a link to an article written by a trans woman who repeated all of the gender critical talking points, just pure reactionary garbage. The writer is a fucking comprador letting people point to her and say "well this trans person says not to get surgery!" If I bring surgery up at all they always tell me to look at sources about regretting it. Its so fucking painful for me to try to get them to stop repeating reactionary talking points and actually listen to me and respect my decision. I just... it's so hard to keep doing this. I love them and all but theyve said really horrible stuff to me. Theyve toned it down a bit but they just dont understand how much their approval matters to me. I can tell they think i can be "cured" somehow, that I just need to figure out "why" i'm trans and just need to "love myself". It sucks so fucking much. I hate this.
I got in a fight with my dad and it fucking sucks. He sent me a link to an article written by a trans woman who repeated all of the gender critical talking points, just pure reactionary garbage. The writer is a fucking comprador letting people point to her and say "well this trans person says not to get surgery!" If I bring surgery up at all they always tell me to look at sources about regretting it. Its so fucking painful for me to try to get them to stop repeating reactionary talking points and actually listen to me and respect my decision. I just... it's so hard to keep doing this. I love them and all but theyve said really horrible stuff to me. Theyve toned it down a bit but they just dont understand how much their approval matters to me. I can tell they think i can be "cured" somehow, that I just need to figure out "why" i'm trans and just need to "love myself". It sucks so fucking much. I hate this.
i'm so so sorry, you don't deserve any of that
pick me's are such a problem for this exact reason. i know actual facts may not be helpful, but have you tried pointing out that there are higher rates of regret for basically every other kind of surgery? even this fact checker trying to downplay those facts admits that the regret rate is way lower than the overall average of 14%, and that the best study available indicates a 1% regret rate
Ive sent them this kind of stuff but it just causes them to send me more reactionary shit.
i'm really sorry