I was in my usual work wear, full makeup, my prosthetics, etc. I wanted to grab some kombucha and there was a guy going through the usual type that I buy. Brief banter between him and I about the flavors, and it's clear that I drink it. This bro tells me that I should really drink it because it's good for your gut bacteria... Like dude, no shit... I brushed it off, but I realized a day later that I was just man-splained to, probably means I was passing, I believe it's called eww-phoria.

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  • BakedBeanEnjoyer
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    3 months ago

    Idk this seems like an entirely normal conversation.

    This bro tells me that I should really drink it because it's good for your gut bacteria... Like dude, no shit... I brushed it off, but I realized a day later that I was just man-splained to

    I'm like 95% sure unless this guy was literally berdly-smug the whole time then he was using the indefinite, impersonal you since you were a stranger. Less, "You in particular should drink this because of gut bacteria which you obviously wouldn't know" and more "People in general should drink this because of gut bacteria but I'm conveying the sentiment to you."

    Likewise, mentioning something low-level is a pretty good way to get into a conversation with someone if you don't know their knowledge level. It's like talking about the weather, its self-evident. The social purpose is to invite you to comment on it as opposed to a literal observation.

    • Chump [he/him]
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      3 months ago

      this all being true, if the interaction made you feel validated then that's what really matters :)

    • tactical_trans_karen [she/her, comrade/them]
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      3 months ago

      Less, "You in particular should drink this because of gut bacteria which you obviously wouldn't know" and more "People in general should drink this because of gut bacteria but I'm conveying the sentiment to you."

      It wasn't the smug thing or overtly talking down, but it was directed at me. The subtlety of the tone is lost in text, but it presented as just unthinking and reflexive for him, he was being friendly and cordial though. It was just plain old, banal man-splaining in mid conversation.