I was in my usual work wear, full makeup, my prosthetics, etc. I wanted to grab some kombucha and there was a guy going through the usual type that I buy. Brief banter between him and I about the flavors, and it's clear that I drink it. This bro tells me that I should really drink it because it's good for your gut bacteria... Like dude, no shit... I brushed it off, but I realized a day later that I was just man-splained to, probably means I was passing, I believe it's called eww-phoria.
gender affirmation through misogyny
do we... do we gotta hand it to that guy????
sorry that was me. i catcall and mansplain to women all day in the hopes that eventually i can validate the gender of my trans comrades
its called being an ally
Idk this seems like an entirely normal conversation.
This bro tells me that I should really drink it because it's good for your gut bacteria... Like dude, no shit... I brushed it off, but I realized a day later that I was just man-splained to
I'm like 95% sure unless this guy was literally
the whole time then he was using the indefinite, impersonal you since you were a stranger. Less, "You in particular should drink this because of gut bacteria which you obviously wouldn't know" and more "People in general should drink this because of gut bacteria but I'm conveying the sentiment to you."Likewise, mentioning something low-level is a pretty good way to get into a conversation with someone if you don't know their knowledge level. It's like talking about the weather, its self-evident. The social purpose is to invite you to comment on it as opposed to a literal observation.
this all being true, if the interaction made you feel validated then that's what really matters :)
Less, "You in particular should drink this because of gut bacteria which you obviously wouldn't know" and more "People in general should drink this because of gut bacteria but I'm conveying the sentiment to you."
It wasn't the smug thing or overtly talking down, but it was directed at me. The subtlety of the tone is lost in text, but it presented as just unthinking and reflexive for him, he was being friendly and cordial though. It was just plain old, banal man-splaining in mid conversation.
You need to work on your resting bitch face babe! /s
Tho thinking about it you'll probably just collect my wife's favorite comment from crepes to "smile more".
Maybe you could make a... a misogyny ewwphoria bingo card!
You need to work on your resting bitch face babe! /s
You joke, but i've actually become kinda cautious about how friendly i am towards dudes now because some of them will take two minutes of small talk as an excuse to ask me if i want to fuck. I'm not even being hyperbolic, there's grown men that just are like that.
i remember once, a year or two into my transition - I was having dinner with my family, when some Rugby news came up (family of Rugby players, living in Australia) and both my brother and my dad took a whole aside in the conversation to explain to me who certain players were, about who the captain of the local team is and why such and such news is a big deal
I had to remind them that I, too, was a rugby player and had been sitting literally right next to them at every game the last few seasons since all three of us were season pass holders of multiple years, something that literally never happened prior to me coming out
and while it might've just been coincidence, my dad is one hundred percent the kind of English, smug-loving Thatcherite who would absolutely mansplain to anybody without thinking twice lmao
This is actually a really good example of the cognitive dissonance believing in gender requires. The indisputable fact that you are a rugby fan who has attended matches with them crumbles in their mind against the weight of "but wamon".
It was friendly, but it was def man-splaining; the subtleties of tone are lost in text.
the most femme validating thing would be if I had to go to the doctor with a man to be taken seriously
Listen, lady. I wish to you a belated congratulations. Welcome further into your new [old] home.
