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  • BountifulEggnog [they/them]
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    1 month ago

    Yea that's definitely how I feel.

    clothes shopping

    cri and be some lumbering pervert. Be a fucking massive dude trying on girl clothes that won't fit right anyway.

    Yea, that's kinda the two ways it could go. I don't really know what the first would tell me but it'd be something.

    The null hypothesis is very helpful to me. "How well would that go?" Not very. If I was born a woman I don't think I'd be switching.

    I know they wouldn't want me to feel that way, but I still would cri I had the biggest load of cope ever to set my tag to they/them when I signed up. It just... doesn't feel right to set them as she/her or she/them when I'm living as a cis guy.

    ooooooooooooooh why are women's clothes the way that they are

    • WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]@lemmy.today
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      1 month ago
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      I don’t really know what the first would tell me but it’d be something.

      Personally, I tried out cosplaying as a female character in public with family and friends (only a couple of whom I'm out to) and I enjoyed it, but I won't look at pictures because I look like "a guy in a dress" so to speak and I disliked that. The reaction of strangers generally seemed to assume I dressed the way I did to be funny and had someone ask me what I was using for boobs when I was just walking by them, but no one said anything bad. Had a couple aunts ask to take pictures of me because their niece was a fan of that character and neither of them acted weird about it, so that was cool. Overall, I think it just confirmed that I'd like to work towards having a body that I could dress like that without it being seen as some sort of joke or have people question what I'm using for boobs. Perhaps just moving out of Texas would help with that though.

      It just… doesn’t feel right to set them as she/her or she/them when I’m living as a cis guy.

      Relatable. The immediate motivation to finally start HRT for me was I don't want to be an uncle (sister announced she was pregnant) and I don't want to look like an uncle when the child is learning to talk. Like, I already basically planned on eventually trying HRT, but that was a reason to not delay getting started (my plan was to wait at least a few more years to save up more money).

      Hopefully you can feel comfortable making the pronoun change here soon though.

      why are women’s clothes the way that they are

      I gonna blame men often owning clothing brands for women.