I feel that so much. I loved skinny jeans in middle school because I'm trans, but didn't realize why people would laugh at me until years later when I realized that I was not average, but well above average. Nowadays, I'm mostly demi though. I can't even imagine sleeping with someone I'm not intimately connected with unless I'm drunk. I don't really care too much about people looking as long as they're respectful, but no touching unless I love you.