Couple months ago I met a woman who works at a dispensary I visit about once a week. We hit it off really well. Despite trying to just keep it casual sex, and that only, I ended up developing some feelings for her. She confessed the same to me. I even introduced her to my teenaged daughter, for fucks sake.
I ran into her this evening at a gas station, with another guy, who turns out to be her husband. They’ve been married five years, and have two children together, ages 4 and 2. Finding out they have kids just made me feel disgusting.
So, I told him. He didnt believe me until I described a tattoo in a somewhat intimate place on her body. I had no fucking clue she was married. I think I ruined someone’s marriage. Or at least took part in ruining one.
I feel guilty. I am sorry for what I participated in. Am I a bad person?
there is a non-trivial chance that this woman now gets battered because of OP. he could have not acted emotionally and taken steps to ensure that wasn't a possibility.
There was a non-trivial chance that OP could get battered or straight up murdered without any knowledge or consent able to be given if the husband were to ever find out. The other party took zero of the steps available to mitigate this possibility.
There's a non-trivial chance that this behavior puts their children in danger because the offending party is making risky decisions to cover up their indiscretion. It's impossible to know.
Maybe the "investigation" removed the woman into doing something unconscionable.
In any number of imaginary situations, the OP took the morally correct approach and your approach could have gotten someone hurt or killed by inaction. It's an incredibly morally ambiguous position to be put in and this guy did what he felt was right, it's hard for me to pass that kind of judgement on him.
blaming the woman for the theoretical actions of her theoretically murderous husband, nice. not engaging with this misogynistic nonsense. tbh women in cishet relationships cheating is basically nbd anyway, couldn't care less.
This is a very wild position to have and is proof that, when I ascend to Stalinhood, all sex and romantic relationships will be banned.