since the other thread is locked I'll post what I wanted to say in reply to @CARCOSA@hexbear.net about the ruse with the other lemmy admins here:

Damn lol, guess I'm not sure how that could realistically have worked with how much the other lemmy libs hate us, but I do get the idea, yeah. I appreciate the transparency after the fact at least. I don't envy the position of having to manage this place, because certain shitty tendencies and bigotry have ofc really required the iron fist to stamp out, like transphobia, but for other changes like this, the "alright its decided for you, here's what we're doing" approach kinda just feels shitty and unnecessary as a user.

But it would of course be a massive shitshow to attempt to decide something like this fully democratically, publicly, even if there were a majority of users behind it. I'd like to think we've grown past the need to have unpopular but necessary site changes pushed through by a vanguard of mods/admins, but idk if that's true or not tbqh.

for whatever it's worth, I'm much more interested in keeping a place for dunking here, and like, not repeating this sort of mess, than I am in seeing you step down, besides this I think you've done a very good job, and I hope I didn't ruin your day

I admit I'm a bit overinvested in slop, but dunking is also a huge part of site culture and somewhat important (insofar as anything on here is, which isn't that much)