Like, the amount of times you hear this is mind boggling. And it’s always liberals/“leftists” who say they’re not racist.
“But I just don’t find them attractive.”
You have NOT seen/interacted with literally every single member of that community. How in the fuck can you just broadly say you aren’t attracted to them?
It’s just a preference.
Like, you’re literally saying you don’t find people of a specific race, or from a specific place, or who follow a specific religion attractive. What the fuck kind of “preference” is this? I don’t understand. That’s terfs saying they don’t find “trans” people attractive. No that’s terfs being literal terfs. Stop it.
I’m a POC too! I can’t be racist against my own race!
Yeah, you are being racist against your own race here. I don’t see why you can’t. Candace Owens regularly spreads anti-Black propaganda for her personal benefit. There are countless such examples.
This shit drives me up the wall. And I haven’t even mentioned the amount of times these devolve into arguments about how ___ race/religion is actually bad and people who are a part of it/follow it are bad. So. Many. Times. And said with a straight face too! By people who say they’re not racist or xenophobic. For some reason people think being a POC means you’re immune from being racist/xenophobic. Which just isn’t true.
I’m not saying your bad for feeling this way. A huge part is the culture we’re born in and grow up in. But a sign of maturity is recognising this ingrained racism and getting rid of it.
Sorry, just sometimes liberals get on my fucking nerves.
I have similarly avoided white friends and white dating (although an currently with a white man who ive been with for years, the only white man ive ever dated, who i met away from these intense beauty standards, just us two. I've often described it as "falling in love in the dark").
Whatever you want to do in response to the BS is your perogative!
I spent so many of my college years repressing my sexuality (dressing plain, not talking to any cuties, never hooking up /doing the flirtatious dance in public) because some of my racist white friends at the time made me hyper aware of my "pretty privilege" and i felt weirdly guilty and so embarassed and as a result regulated myself to never put myself out there.
I also noticed that the weirdness of my friends hyped up when I expressed attraction to certain white men who were the campus certified Hot Person Reserved for A Similarly Hot White
Now I realize I was just contributing to a racist/ sexist dynamic where I de sexualized myself in order to make the white women (apologies to my white women but yall have really put my through it) feel more comfortable.
This dynamic has come up especially with hipster white women, who in my experience have issue imagining the way prettiness and unashamed femininity can fit a radical world view.
As a result, a lot of these hipster women seem to purposefully adopt a semi political feiminist aesthetic thats less feminine. They adopt the ella emhoff look / purposefully blunt their sexuality while shutting down my more decidedly feminine sexuality, creating this dynamic of "cool white girl whose so feminist beacause she doesnt care what she looks like vs feminine black jezebel slut woman", without considering cultural and classed versions of feminity and also that expression of femininity is okay within itself.
Or how cis white womanhood is a traditional type of femininity of which their aesthetical subversion will never change, in relation to how black womanhood will always be seen as masc/ as poor / as something to be hurt regardless of how non threatening and feminine I make my aesthetic.
(no offense to ella emhoff, she looks fine, but im talking about the lena dunham rich white girl type that dresses ugly on purpose to queer her cis white feminity but then gets really self conscious when woc/trans/queer women just exist)