So much for the tired and going to bed announcement.

I’m trying to be open here

Then stop dodging labels and denying what you have already directly done in this thread.

I know I was hostile. That wasn’t ok. But I was scared, I was angry, and I don’t really know what else to say

Owning up to it is good and a good start and I sincerely respect that. Yes, that is what I tend to call treat defense and the way you blew up at me from the start seemed like a textbook example of it. It's not a fatal error and I think it's best to just accept that you did react the way you did and just back down from that from there.

I really don’t want to make you hate me for a prolonged period. I am willing to do anything to try and make it up to you, legitimately. I will delete all of my comments on this post if you want that. I don’t want to be an annoying debate-bro, I just want a community I can feel safe in

Things are fine. I don't hate you. I actually respect you quite a bit now for the vulnerability you've just shown. That takes courage.