Absolutely agree, more equitable division of labor in the home is important, also I like the transitional idea of the husband having to pay his wife for her surplus labor (I think China recently had a case where a woman successfully got divorce settlement for unpaid labor done during the course of the marriage).

No one ever said that stage one/lower communism/socialism would solve all the problems, the idea is just that without the bourgeois dictatorship and with more democratic political-economy, those contradictions will become easier to spot and solve. Especially with universal suffrage and workplace democracy, allowing for dissident/liberation groups to integrate with the worker's state is important for solving those problems.