Yeah, for example, she finds so much work today extremely alienating and unsatisfactory. She doesn't like the way jobs take and take and take from people's lives. Go figure, she has old fashioned attitudes on the division of labor, but she says it breaks her heart how many kids are basically raised by schools and screens instead of having a full time parent involved in their education and spiritual guidance. That's something leftists agree with even if we don't then point to gender based division of labor as the solution. Capitalist economics have appropriated and commodified more of our time, men and women alike, and highly alienated us from the essential acts of care necessary to make rich community life possible. Sharia dictates that it is a man's job to financially provide for a family, and a woman's to guide the household and children's education, and both are essential to human flourishing. My contact talks about how the women in her family that stuck with old fashioned norms had rich social lives and acted as the glue/center of organization for the community/family's social life. Apparently, pre-nuptual agreements are becoming more and more common in Islamic countries where women are insisting that that part of the marriage contract is enforced because they so hate being forced to go out and work some alienating job.
Again, I can acknowledge that the ideology is problematic for other reasons, but it is fascinating to see how someone finds such a restrictive ideology liberating in a certain sense.
within the logic of the religion/Sharia it is very clear that they take the ‘rights’ of women seriously.
Thats the same conclusion I've come to in the very little I've studied Islam and Sharia. Disagreements aside, it's a rather interesting concept to learn of.
but within the logic of the religion/Sharia it is very clear that they take the ‘rights’ of women seriously
Lol yeah that's what traditionalists in general believe that too. Within their "logic" women are better off in the house taking care of children and cooking and "forcing" them to not be married to one man from the age of 16, enter the workforce, study etc is "destructive" to women and contrary to their nature. Extremely patriarchal societies have all sorts of ways to justify it.
"study etc is “destructive” to women and contrary to their nature."
Maybe I mistook your point - but it seemed like you're making broad swipes at Islam here, and in recent conversations with my contact that's exactly the kind of misconception she deeply resents.
Rereading your comment, maybe you were referring to just traditionalists in general?
Maybe I mistook your point - but it seemed like you’re making broad swipes at Islam here,
I wasn't talking about her (I saw that you said she is an academic partner of yours so I knew that clearly she didn't think that) or Islam specifically. I said that it's an attitude that various patriarchal traditionalists hold, including many Muslims but that varies a bit by country and by person. My point was that it's not new for traditionalists to "care" for women's rights. Especially when it comes to women who live in very patriarchal societies and have internalised that, they have to think it is somehow good for them. My point is that it doesn't make it any less patriarchal. It's just how these sorts of systems perpetuate themselves.
Oh, yeah we'd be in agreement there, my bad for misunderstanding, I'll edit. But it's just fascinating to me that such institutions do serve needs of communities, and it makes sense to me now that given the choice between the alienation and exploitation of souless jobs for some ghoul and oppressive but spiritually significant social roles, someone would choose the latter.
I'm pretty interested in how the left can better craft and explain narratives that fulfill that human need for meaning. While it may seem abundantly clear to us who are already radicalized, so many people struggle with the contradiction between capitalist alienation and their need for spiritual fulfillment, and they see reactionary institutions as the only outlet. While we can of course be critical of them, we must recognize that they are meeting needs/addressing certain problems, and if we're going to persuade people effectively we'll need to be prepared to meet/explain how leftism satisfies that need too.
and it makes sense to me now that given the choice between the alienation and exploitation of souless jobs for some ghoul and oppressive but spiritually significant social roles, someone would choose the latter.
They don't really make a choice. It's what people are brought up into. Few people "choose" to go there. Some do but it isn't the norm. It's not easy either to break out of that habit, or to get into the habit. Not to mention other dynamics at play.
I think Islam respects women more than these incels.
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If it's not like personal stuff, do you have any examples? My knowledge of islam is super shallow and I'm curious now
Yeah, for example, she finds so much work today extremely alienating and unsatisfactory. She doesn't like the way jobs take and take and take from people's lives. Go figure, she has old fashioned attitudes on the division of labor, but she says it breaks her heart how many kids are basically raised by schools and screens instead of having a full time parent involved in their education and spiritual guidance. That's something leftists agree with even if we don't then point to gender based division of labor as the solution. Capitalist economics have appropriated and commodified more of our time, men and women alike, and highly alienated us from the essential acts of care necessary to make rich community life possible. Sharia dictates that it is a man's job to financially provide for a family, and a woman's to guide the household and children's education, and both are essential to human flourishing. My contact talks about how the women in her family that stuck with old fashioned norms had rich social lives and acted as the glue/center of organization for the community/family's social life. Apparently, pre-nuptual agreements are becoming more and more common in Islamic countries where women are insisting that that part of the marriage contract is enforced because they so hate being forced to go out and work some alienating job.
Again, I can acknowledge that the ideology is problematic for other reasons, but it is fascinating to see how someone finds such a restrictive ideology liberating in a certain sense.
Thats the same conclusion I've come to in the very little I've studied Islam and Sharia. Disagreements aside, it's a rather interesting concept to learn of.
Lol yeah that's what traditionalists in general believe that too. Within their "logic" women are better off in the house taking care of children and cooking and "forcing" them to not be married to one man from the age of 16, enter the workforce, study etc is "destructive" to women and contrary to their nature. Extremely patriarchal societies have all sorts of ways to justify it.
Well she's a PhD in economic history so you're already embarrassing yourself with chauvinistic assumptions.
Edit: Misunderstood what the other comrade meant - they are not making chauvinistic assumptions. Cleared up below.
Literally what does this have to do with anything
"study etc is “destructive” to women and contrary to their nature."
Maybe I mistook your point - but it seemed like you're making broad swipes at Islam here, and in recent conversations with my contact that's exactly the kind of misconception she deeply resents.
Rereading your comment, maybe you were referring to just traditionalists in general?
I wasn't talking about her (I saw that you said she is an academic partner of yours so I knew that clearly she didn't think that) or Islam specifically. I said that it's an attitude that various patriarchal traditionalists hold, including many Muslims but that varies a bit by country and by person. My point was that it's not new for traditionalists to "care" for women's rights. Especially when it comes to women who live in very patriarchal societies and have internalised that, they have to think it is somehow good for them. My point is that it doesn't make it any less patriarchal. It's just how these sorts of systems perpetuate themselves.
Oh, yeah we'd be in agreement there, my bad for misunderstanding, I'll edit. But it's just fascinating to me that such institutions do serve needs of communities, and it makes sense to me now that given the choice between the alienation and exploitation of souless jobs for some ghoul and oppressive but spiritually significant social roles, someone would choose the latter.
I'm pretty interested in how the left can better craft and explain narratives that fulfill that human need for meaning. While it may seem abundantly clear to us who are already radicalized, so many people struggle with the contradiction between capitalist alienation and their need for spiritual fulfillment, and they see reactionary institutions as the only outlet. While we can of course be critical of them, we must recognize that they are meeting needs/addressing certain problems, and if we're going to persuade people effectively we'll need to be prepared to meet/explain how leftism satisfies that need too.
They don't really make a choice. It's what people are brought up into. Few people "choose" to go there. Some do but it isn't the norm. It's not easy either to break out of that habit, or to get into the habit. Not to mention other dynamics at play.