I think I remember having a relatively pleasant minor struggle session about it a while back, acknowledged the downsides of the meme, and since then the puritanical anti-horny attitude feels like it's lightened up over time. I subjectively think we're striking a better balance.
There's no "puritanical anti-horny attitude". The volcel police was a meme but being annoyed at dudes constantly being weird and horny every time they see a woman everywhere ever is not "puritanical".
Volcel police meme is what made the culture on CTH (and here by extension) one of the most comfortable and least hostile places on the internet for me as a woman for sure
Sure - but that doesn't mean teenagers should feel scared and ashamed that they are experiencing sexual desire in their personal lives. If someone can't tell the difference b/t memes for community health and religious like moral precepts, something is getting lost in translation. That's how communities that start out as ironic get taken over by a culture that's not ironic anymore. More and more people join that aren't literate in the memes and read them literally, and then begin enforcing them literally. It's a real pickle in community culture development patterns.
There's plenty of normal, healthy horny posting on this site that nobody calls the volcel police over. It's better to have a community-supported mechanism for shutting down people who cross the line into unwanted horny posting that's low-pressure enough that it doesn't make the person getting sent to horny gulag double down and decide that everyone else is wrong
It was a small struggle session, not nearly the big-ole site wide affair the legends speak of, but a bunch of people basically came in and admitted to being terrified of their own sexuality and not understanding where the meme began and ended. Turned into, hopefully, a helpful discussion that taught people how to better feel out boundaries, how to acknowledge and be proud of their sexuality but also respectful of other people's space and experience too.
There absolutely were posts at the time taking anti-horny, in all aspects of life, more seriously than I thought was healthy. Since then the irony levels seem like they got turned up to 11 and the fact that people want to FUCK is not treated as some personal moral failing. That may not have been the predominant angle, but there was a vocal minority at the time that seems to have quieted down.
Or maybe I'm misremembering the whole thing. This was like 5 months ago my dude, and in a thread that only had like 40 up votes. I'm not a historian over here.
I agree that the VolCel Police is highly problematic and should be abolished immediately, but you can't really compare an altright-initiated cult of sexual repression with an extended hornyposting bit about chastity play.
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I mean I think we can strike a balance between constant horny posting and never cumming again. There must be some way we can just jerk off in private?
If this makes me a spineless centrist, so be it.
I think I remember having a relatively pleasant minor struggle session about it a while back, acknowledged the downsides of the meme, and since then the puritanical anti-horny attitude feels like it's lightened up over time. I subjectively think we're striking a better balance.
There's no "puritanical anti-horny attitude". The volcel police was a meme but being annoyed at dudes constantly being weird and horny every time they see a woman everywhere ever is not "puritanical".
Volcel police meme is what made the culture on CTH (and here by extension) one of the most comfortable and least hostile places on the internet for me as a woman for sure
Sure - but that doesn't mean teenagers should feel scared and ashamed that they are experiencing sexual desire in their personal lives. If someone can't tell the difference b/t memes for community health and religious like moral precepts, something is getting lost in translation. That's how communities that start out as ironic get taken over by a culture that's not ironic anymore. More and more people join that aren't literate in the memes and read them literally, and then begin enforcing them literally. It's a real pickle in community culture development patterns.
There's plenty of normal, healthy horny posting on this site that nobody calls the volcel police over. It's better to have a community-supported mechanism for shutting down people who cross the line into unwanted horny posting that's low-pressure enough that it doesn't make the person getting sent to horny gulag double down and decide that everyone else is wrong
There certainly is now - we'd be in agreement over that, I'm referring to that spell we went through when that was not the case.
It was a small struggle session, not nearly the big-ole site wide affair the legends speak of, but a bunch of people basically came in and admitted to being terrified of their own sexuality and not understanding where the meme began and ended. Turned into, hopefully, a helpful discussion that taught people how to better feel out boundaries, how to acknowledge and be proud of their sexuality but also respectful of other people's space and experience too.
There absolutely were posts at the time taking anti-horny, in all aspects of life, more seriously than I thought was healthy. Since then the irony levels seem like they got turned up to 11 and the fact that people want to FUCK is not treated as some personal moral failing. That may not have been the predominant angle, but there was a vocal minority at the time that seems to have quieted down.
Or maybe I'm misremembering the whole thing. This was like 5 months ago my dude, and in a thread that only had like 40 up votes. I'm not a historian over here.
I agree that the VolCel Police is highly problematic and should be abolished immediately, but you can't really compare an altright-initiated cult of sexual repression with an extended hornyposting bit about chastity play.
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