Let me clarify, I think both those statements ARE TRUE, but I feel like there's some caveats. Like, if you're a 100% Herero masculine man who doesn't have much empathy for others, the patriarchy probably kinda rocks. I hate cooking and cleaning personally and would love if a robot could do it all for me, but I can see why a less moral man would be fine with just having a woman do it for them.
Same with racism, sure it's used to divide the working class, but that divide is facilitated in part by giving the more privileged workers more goodies, and some people REALLY love those goodies.
Now sure we can tell people "things would be better under socialism!" But let's be honest here, things would be better under FALGSC, and FALGSC is farther off than many of us would like to admit. Even if we pulled off global socialism tomorrow there's probably at least a 100 years or so of "transitional period" before we get to a socialism that works that good that we'll have replicators and shit. In that period, I think the more privileged sectors of the working class are probably gonna experience some belt tightening, and they may not be happy with that. Sure, your grandkids (or maybe great grandkids) are gonna be doing great but I don't think Bob the Union Truck-driver is gonna be happy about losing his jetski and his wife getting shoes and not making him steaks in the kitchen anymore.
Mind you, I'm not a Maoist Third Worldist, I think there are workers in the imperial core for whom socialism is appealing, but I think we kind of need to be honest with the fact it's not like everyone who technically qualifies as a proletarian is gonna reap the same benefits here.
I know this is kind of unfocused and scatter brained but it's just a shower thought I've been having.
Here's how patriarchy hurts me, a middle aged, white, cisgender, married, combat veteran.
My wife runs a small farm. The employees or "employees" are exactly two people she and me. SO, because I try to help her out doing this thing that she loves and has spent 20 years making there are a few things that I always answer "no" to when applying for jobs: No mornings, no graveyard shifts, no Saturdays.
Now I'm not a professional anything so I'm usually applying at grocery stores and hardware stores and the local farm stores for stocking/receiving type jobs when I'm looking for off farm work... and I never hear a peep when I fill out an application or apply for an advertised open position without checking the boxes that mean "I'm always available". The one time I decide to say "fuck it" and just say I'm available at all hours and all days... I get a call back a few weeks later and stumbled into a weird job at the local post office.
So... maybe its purely a fluke... or maybe there seems to be an expectation that I will be infinitely available to work any job and fuck my home life, fuck seeing my wife, fuck my wife having a regular sleep schedule (as my bosses could schedule me for day shifts one week and night shifts the next), fuck me having a regular sleep schedule, etc all because I have a penis.