Navigating the current social media landscape as a newer parent these days is pretty tough when dealing with relatives who may not fully respect or understand a 'no posting pictures online's rule.
Most people I know have had to resort to using third party hosting apps with their own built-in security features which comes with their own security concerns by nature so I think the question is valid and with good intent at least without any additional information. Pointing out possible flaws and exploitations is fine, but accusatorially jumping to the worst scenario right off the bat comes off as confrontational so I can't really blame OOP.
I know my opinion doesn't mean much around here, but I appreciate that mods have to deal with some awful shit and people on a daily basis though and thank you for doing what you do to keep the internet and, by extension, the people safe.
yeah people can't even wrap their heads around "no I don't have an apple/google smartphone" or "no I don't use social media" so "don't post these cute baby pics online" must be even more alien
I'm firmly in the "I don't use social media" camp and it really is a very bizarre thing for a lot of people to wrap their heads around.
What makes it worse is that the same people who attempt to post them pictures also take personal offense at being asked to remove them typically so it just makes for a very uncomfortable situation so if there are tools to avoid it I can understand wanting them. People have a hard time grasping that what you put on the internet is there forever.
I guess in this case I am a bit more in the opposite camp. My family is pretty good on pictures and consent. I think in total there are like maybe 4 pictures of me on the entire internet, including a selfie I took myself wearing a mask with photoshopped eyes.
I may have been very sleep deprived and jumped to that conclusion because of past trauma, but to say that my concern over this is because I "must always have CSAM on the brain" is way beyond my much more mild accusation that requesting such an app raised alarm bells in my brain, if it weren't for the fact that my genuine concern was met with practically a direct accusation is the only reason I made a post dunking on them.
I'm aware of at least some of the recent issues and I'm absolutely sympathetic. Innocence is something that you just can't get back once you've seen some of the more depraved parts of humanity 🫤.
With that being said, you did come in a bit too hot on this one. I think you could have made your point that it's possible this type of a system would be used for illicit purposes without directly throwing suspicion onto the OP and it would have accomplished the same goal.
As an outside observer it really reads like someone asking how to safely share family photos and you coming in and saying "Why do you want this, pedo? Sounds like something a pedo would say!" Obviously this a satirical dramatization, but your 2nd, 3rd and 5th paragraphs give your response a very accusatory tone even if that wasn't your intent. I think most rational people would react strongly negatively to implicitly being called a pedophile in earnest.
Navigating the current social media landscape as a newer parent these days is pretty tough when dealing with relatives who may not fully respect or understand a 'no posting pictures online's rule.
Most people I know have had to resort to using third party hosting apps with their own built-in security features which comes with their own security concerns by nature so I think the question is valid and with good intent at least without any additional information. Pointing out possible flaws and exploitations is fine, but accusatorially jumping to the worst scenario right off the bat comes off as confrontational so I can't really blame OOP.
I know my opinion doesn't mean much around here, but I appreciate that mods have to deal with some awful shit and people on a daily basis though and thank you for doing what you do to keep the internet and, by extension, the people safe.
yeah people can't even wrap their heads around "no I don't have an apple/google smartphone" or "no I don't use social media" so "don't post these cute baby pics online" must be even more alien
I'm firmly in the "I don't use social media" camp and it really is a very bizarre thing for a lot of people to wrap their heads around.
What makes it worse is that the same people who attempt to post them pictures also take personal offense at being asked to remove them typically so it just makes for a very uncomfortable situation so if there are tools to avoid it I can understand wanting them. People have a hard time grasping that what you put on the internet is there forever.
I guess in this case I am a bit more in the opposite camp. My family is pretty good on pictures and consent. I think in total there are like maybe 4 pictures of me on the entire internet, including a selfie I took myself wearing a mask with photoshopped eyes.
I may have been very sleep deprived and jumped to that conclusion because of past trauma, but to say that my concern over this is because I "must always have CSAM on the brain" is way beyond my much more mild accusation that requesting such an app raised alarm bells in my brain, if it weren't for the fact that my genuine concern was met with practically a direct accusation is the only reason I made a post dunking on them.
I'm aware of at least some of the recent issues and I'm absolutely sympathetic. Innocence is something that you just can't get back once you've seen some of the more depraved parts of humanity 🫤.
With that being said, you did come in a bit too hot on this one. I think you could have made your point that it's possible this type of a system would be used for illicit purposes without directly throwing suspicion onto the OP and it would have accomplished the same goal.
As an outside observer it really reads like someone asking how to safely share family photos and you coming in and saying "Why do you want this, pedo? Sounds like something a pedo would say!" Obviously this a satirical dramatization, but your 2nd, 3rd and 5th paragraphs give your response a very accusatory tone even if that wasn't your intent. I think most rational people would react strongly negatively to implicitly being called a pedophile in earnest.
100% fair criticism thank you.