I'm into a co-worker. Nothing indicates he's interested or even into guys, but I'm bad at reading social cues. He knows I'm not straight and we talk regularly at work.

It feels like it's obvious I like him, but again, social cues. I was thinking about saying something direct and just being honest, but I don't want to stress him out. I don't expect him to like me back, but that would be great.

I guess I'm asking how uncool is it to communicate that to someone at work?

Edit - I just wanted to say thanks and I hear what a lot of you are saying. I was under the assumption that being around someone you like and not telling them you like them is dishonest and unfair. It turns out I need to reevaluate some things about myself.

I need to be careful and I don't want to risk making work worse for me/alienate another person who's trying to work in peace.

I'm just glad I got to talk about the feeling somewhere shit once. Thanks again!

  • MF_COOM [he/him]
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    11 months ago

    Telling someone they're attractive is kind of an awkward statement, you're just sort of putting that on them to have to deal with. If you think they're cute ask them to go for a drink after work - that gives them something to engage with and accept or decline.

    • RyanGosling [none/use name]
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      11 months ago

      If you want to compliment their attractiveness, it’s usually safer to compliment their outfits or something that they put any effort and control in.