People absolutely do use their gender to harm people its called men lmao

I think its bad when Irish or Italians do the "hey we had it tough too" thing but that is just a thing they do that is annoying, like so many things they do that are annoying, and not inherent to the concept of ethnicity and lots of other American hybridized ethnicities don't do that because they don't have that history to draw on. Maybe we should just ban Irish and Italian as ethnicities and let the others have it.