Hey there, all my life I have been surrounded by conservatives as I just finished high school at a right-wing catholic school and my entire family is republican. For some time I felt a bit alienated from my environment, but I ended up building great friendships with people whose political views aren’t unable for me to get past.
However I’m starting college in a few weeks and I’m attending an Ivy, I’m not gonna disclose which but it’s got a reputation for being very snobbish and I am afraid I will meet but frat guys with Epstein-vibes-dads and just people that I really do not identify with, and I don’t mean exclusively on the political sphere. I am very tolerant in regards to mental health matters, as I struggle with those myself, I’m a raging stoner and softcore psychonaut and I’m very naturally physically unattractive.
Maybe I shouldn’t have applied there in the first place, but I plan on going to medical school so I thought couldn’t not take the opportunity. Anyway any tips on how to survive 4 years of college away from my family and friends and surrounded by people I will potentially not be able to establish meaningful bonds with? And where do you suggest I try to meet friends instead (I’ll be out of state and on the opposite coast from home)
I know colleges tend to be very diverse by design, so I am aware that I am considering the worst case scenario that I think and hope won’t come to be, but as it is a possibility I’m trying to mentally prepare myself for what might be the loneliest time of my life. I mean I’m obviously keeping in touch with everyone, but I can’t help but think that that doesn’t replace fun parties and nights out especially because they will most likely be out there in their chosen colleges meeting new people.
So what do you suggest? Thanks in advance.
Give it a year. If you don’t like it there, transfer. If you’re determined to stick it out to get the degree so you can go to bed school or whatever, just put your head down and do it. You’ll be fine because you have a goal, and this is the shit you have to eat to get there.
Meet people by joining clubs. Don’t let your freshman dorm assignment set the limits of your experience.
I went to a big name school and fucking hated it. It was a bunch of rich dickheads just wanted to be bankers and make money. I stayed there for way too long, but then wound up transferring to a really shitty state school that I loved. And now I’m pretty happy.
Thank you. I’ve been trying to remind myself that this is not the only path available, ideally i do find my niche of people and have a good time but if i don’t then there’s nothing wrong with transferring. Right now my biggest issue is sort of coming to terms with the uncertainty as I cannot possibly predict how my experience you’ll be, I guess I’m gonna try to not let those anxious thoughts eat away at me and just ship in and head for whatever life’s planned for me.
To be honest, probably the most important thing you should worry about right now is not getting fucking coronavirus. The school shit will work itself out, it’s normal to be nervous before you start college, especially when it’s far from home.