I’m training to be an amazon driver lmfao, but I’m actually sorta looking forward to it cause it means I don’t have to spend all day interfacing with customers. I never actually stated my gender identity anywhere but I still pretty much look like a dude and everyone just defaulted to he/him for me and I don’t bother correcting them.

Thing is, even though we’re in Los Angeles, about as Progressive as you can get, and I literally did a module about inclusion and respecting transgender coworkers as part of my training, I’m an at will employee and therefore all the assurances that it would be illegal to fire me because of protected status means nothing because my contract explicitly says I can be fired at any time for any or no reason.

The other thing is though, I’m a big softy and tomorrow and Thursday I’m gonna be riding along with someone all day so they could show me how it works, and in general all the people I’ve met with like the dispatchers have been super friendly and nice, and dammit I just like Making Friends rather than just doing the bare minimum socially but staying otherwise distant. Also it’s just a bit sad every time I get misgendered

So yeah. Should I follow the cynical instincts instilled in me by this site and stay closeted?

  • congressbaseballfan [she/her]
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    3 years ago

    I’d say stay closeted but I’m a coward with very few friends so I’d value the friendship and social aspects over the correct gender. I’m also cis and have no conception of any experiences from your perspective so maybe don’t listen to me.

    Healthy cynicism good. But do what will make your life best/most liveable :stalin-heart:

    Edit for humor, might delete later if inappropriate:

    Or, you could go the ayytalian route and say “ayyyy, I’m genderqueer ova heeeere”

    My point being if you say you have they/them pronouns (are genderqueer) that might be an easier path to not get explicitly misgendered.

    Fuck me. I’m probably giving questionable advice from a trans rights perspective, but that’s what I would do if it were me

    • Terkrockerfeller [she/her]
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      3 years ago

      Main issue with that, at least for me, is that I can’t really be “friends” with someone if I have to hide who I am and let them unknowingly upset me all the time

        • Terkrockerfeller [she/her]
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          3 years ago

          I saw it and didn’t really have anything to say. I don’t identify as genderqueer necessarily and if I’m gonna be asking for people to use unintuitive pronouns for me, they may as well be my proper ones