this sounds like it was written by someone who didn't grow up in a house where it was normal for their parents to be affectionate to each other.
He wants to be affectionate with his dog, petting it and whatever, but isn't driven to be cuddly with his girlfriend. I don't think it's pure reddit-brain at work here.
I was the opposite in that my family was extremely physically affectionate but couldn't say a nice thing to save their lives. It took me a long time and a decent amount of work to stop using "pretty good" as my biggest compliment. We all have :brainworms: to purge
One thing I've noticed in this big wide world is that some people really like their emotions. They just like feeling them all the time, and if they aren't feeling something, they feel lost and empty. Moreover they identify this lack of feeling as coming from others and view it as a personal attack. Like this gf.
There are other people who are more on an even keel. They like emotions too, but prefer thought. It doesn't mean they feel any less, it's just that they don't have to show it all the time. If they say "I love you," it's good for the week and they don't have to say it four times a day and burst through the door with a shower of kisses.
I definitely like pets a lot less than the Reddit guy so I don't really get him admittedly, but am more affectionate towards people and hug my friends.
I don't like baby-talking dogs like the Reddit Guy, and if my partner and I got a dog then it'd probably be "their" dog with me helping take care of it because they like baby talking dogs and stuff, and I don't really. Plus I feel like I don't have the energy to play with and take care of a dog as much as it needs. I like that living with a dog would force me to walk and go outside more, but I'm just not a pet person.
Just the fact that he likes the dog so much makes me feel like he's conditioned to repress emotion towards people but feels like he can let it all go towards his dog.
I have a hard time expressing affection towards people I love (both romantically and platonically) because it makes me feel so damn vulnerable and exposed. I can only overcome this while intoxicated, but since quitting I've been very reserved. But I absolutely smother pets with all that pent up affection I bottled up.
this sounds like it was written by someone who didn't grow up in a house where it was normal for their parents to be affectionate to each other.
He wants to be affectionate with his dog, petting it and whatever, but isn't driven to be cuddly with his girlfriend. I don't think it's pure reddit-brain at work here.
At least he's trying.
I was like this and grew up in a house like that. Took a while to deprogram.
I was the opposite in that my family was extremely physically affectionate but couldn't say a nice thing to save their lives. It took me a long time and a decent amount of work to stop using "pretty good" as my biggest compliment. We all have :brainworms: to purge
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Were you raised by Revolver 'Shalashaska' Ocelot?
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Not all people are the same.
One thing I've noticed in this big wide world is that some people really like their emotions. They just like feeling them all the time, and if they aren't feeling something, they feel lost and empty. Moreover they identify this lack of feeling as coming from others and view it as a personal attack. Like this gf.
There are other people who are more on an even keel. They like emotions too, but prefer thought. It doesn't mean they feel any less, it's just that they don't have to show it all the time. If they say "I love you," it's good for the week and they don't have to say it four times a day and burst through the door with a shower of kisses.
People are different.
I definitely like pets a lot less than the Reddit guy so I don't really get him admittedly, but am more affectionate towards people and hug my friends.
I don't like baby-talking dogs like the Reddit Guy, and if my partner and I got a dog then it'd probably be "their" dog with me helping take care of it because they like baby talking dogs and stuff, and I don't really. Plus I feel like I don't have the energy to play with and take care of a dog as much as it needs. I like that living with a dog would force me to walk and go outside more, but I'm just not a pet person.
Just the fact that he likes the dog so much makes me feel like he's conditioned to repress emotion towards people but feels like he can let it all go towards his dog.
I have a hard time expressing affection towards people I love (both romantically and platonically) because it makes me feel so damn vulnerable and exposed. I can only overcome this while intoxicated, but since quitting I've been very reserved. But I absolutely smother pets with all that pent up affection I bottled up.