Something I see super regularly, and find really disturbing, is how a young person 25-35 will post something, or even say it in person, like "I really want to have kids with my partner and start a family, but I just can't feel safe doing that with how unstable the world it," and proceed to list all their super realistic concerns and fears. And immediately someone will chirp up with some variation of "no one promised you stability or safety! You need to make it on your own! Everyone finds a way to have kids." Like these people do realize this isn't like a one off phenomenon, like household formation and having children are at world historic and systemic lows. Do these people want society to stop? Like people wanting to have children is like the most normal thing in the world, and wanting some small measure of stability and safety seems the least anyone is entitled to.

It's just so ducking weird to see, cus so often these are the same people freaking out cus there aren't enough kids. I just don't fucking understand people. I dunno what I am asking I just need to vent because people fucking confuse me.

  • TerminalEncounter [she/her]
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    3 years ago

    No, I think a lot of people don't think in terms of materialism at all (like in objective terms by observing the world as it actually is and not as we may or may not wish it to be). So if you're well-off and lived in a society that supported you and you don't think of things materially, then you get these boomer style airheads that tell you stuff like "just go in and shake the managers hand and you'll get a job" or "just have kids it'll all work out, all they really need is love." They don't look at stats, they don't look beyond their social group, they just don't get it at all and often refuse to learn or change until it starts to hurt them (for example, vaxx refusers are in this same group of complete idealists). The very same group in the same breath complain about white replacement by brown people but also refuse to do any social welfare to make having kids a more rational choice, they aren't encountering the world in material terms but want to push what observations they make into their own preconceived notions.