It really depends on where you are. This would fly in Atlanta but not Seattle. It'd fly in Italy, but not Norway. It'd fly more often for a pretty charming person. It'd fly more often at a bar or a party than at a cafe. If she says "I'm waiting for a friend," that means "don't sit here." It's unfortunately not as simple as not/appropriate.
This kinda shit is why I'm so seemingly anti-social. I have ASD and the fact that there's all these unwritten rules about social interactions is absurd, I have no idea how neurotypical folks handle this :blob-no-thoughts: I sure as hell can't manage it.
As a nuerotypical, some of us are better at it than others. I personally find it tiring and hang out with a lot of weirdos specifically so I can avoid this sort of thing.
It did happen to me a few times in Japan at cafes and stuff, like people sitting with me when it was crowded. The first time I tried talking to the guy, but I either broke some social etiquette of not talking or maybe he wasn't expecting the gaikokujin to know some Japanese? Because he was visibly not into it
My buddy who lives in the northeastern US once accidentally made eye contact with someone on a bus. The guy immediately flipped him off and shouted "Whaddaya think of that, idiot?" from across the bus. I cannot imagine asking to sit down at a table with a stranger.
It's much more socially acceptable if you asked "can I join you" also you might get rebuffed pretty hard so be prepared for that and only try if you can handle the rejection gracefully
No, I don't want anyone doing this unless the place is full, and even then one should keep to theirself. If I'm at a café alone it's because I want to be at a café alone.
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It really depends on where you are. This would fly in Atlanta but not Seattle. It'd fly in Italy, but not Norway. It'd fly more often for a pretty charming person. It'd fly more often at a bar or a party than at a cafe. If she says "I'm waiting for a friend," that means "don't sit here." It's unfortunately not as simple as not/appropriate.
This kinda shit is why I'm so seemingly anti-social. I have ASD and the fact that there's all these unwritten rules about social interactions is absurd, I have no idea how neurotypical folks handle this :blob-no-thoughts: I sure as hell can't manage it.
Unrelated but I love your name. People hear have such excellent handles.
As a nuerotypical, some of us are better at it than others. I personally find it tiring and hang out with a lot of weirdos specifically so I can avoid this sort of thing.
It might fly in Norway actually, because our inability to say no sometimes overrides our compulsion to be anti social lmao
That's the issue though "can I join you" is only appropriate if the recipient has the capacity to say no and if the question itself isn't bothersome
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It did happen to me a few times in Japan at cafes and stuff, like people sitting with me when it was crowded. The first time I tried talking to the guy, but I either broke some social etiquette of not talking or maybe he wasn't expecting the gaikokujin to know some Japanese? Because he was visibly not into it
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My buddy who lives in the northeastern US once accidentally made eye contact with someone on a bus. The guy immediately flipped him off and shouted "Whaddaya think of that, idiot?" from across the bus. I cannot imagine asking to sit down at a table with a stranger.
It's much more socially acceptable if you asked "can I join you" also you might get rebuffed pretty hard so be prepared for that and only try if you can handle the rejection gracefully
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No, I don't want anyone doing this unless the place is full, and even then one should keep to theirself. If I'm at a café alone it's because I want to be at a café alone.
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i don't think sitting at a table with a stranger is that weird. i think prefacing it with "are you here alone?" is what makes it weird