it's relatively easy for me to meet people online, but there's only so much i can get out of virtual friendships anymore.

  • khodahafez_dispenser [comrade/them]
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    3 years ago

    Well yeah, it just sounds like you've already made up excuses not to put yourself out there. That's the rewiring your brain needs through classical conditioning of changing your habits from sitting in front of a screen all day.

    The point is getting out there. It's not that you'll suddenly be awash in new friends and acquaintances, it's that you'll rewire your brain to see the world and people around you with a more open, inviting mind.

    • SadStruggle92 [none/use name]
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      3 years ago

      The point is getting out there. It’s not that you’ll suddenly be awash in new friends and acquaintances, it’s that you’ll rewire your brain to see the world and people around you with a more open, inviting mind.

      The reason why I prefer to stay inside is because of past experiences with other people outside my home (and also from inside my home, come to think of it) being bad tho.

      I guess what I'm getting at here is that you have no way to ensure that the experiences that anybody who actually tries to practice what you're saying will actually be positive or productive.

      • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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        3 years ago

        yeah it's a risk but it's a risk that needs to be taken in order to have meaningful relationships with people

          • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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            3 years ago

            if you don't socialise with and form meaningful relationships with people then you will be lonely.

            it's difficult and it is a risk to put yourself out there but it also gets easier and not doing it isn't a long term plan

            • SadStruggle92 [none/use name]
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              3 years ago

              if you don’t socialise with and form meaningful relationships with people then you will be lonely.

              I suppose my point is that I honestly believe that I simply can't, and never will be able to.

              • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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                3 years ago

                you might be putting to much pressure on yourself. socialising is a skill and it improves with practice.

                putting yourself out there continually makes people less uncomfortable putting themselves out there