Every. Time. Every time someone on the internet mentions violence against women you can be damn sure there is some dude just waiting for the chance to tell them they aren't oppressed because their male friend got their wallet stolen once and that's totally the same thing.

  • Ithorian [comrade/them]
    ·
    2 years ago

    While it's true men are considerably more likely to be the victims of violence the difference between a bar fight or getting mugged vs getting raped seems like a really important difference to keep in mind.

    • GreenTeaRedFlag [any]
      ·
      2 years ago

      Also how those crimes would be reported. "He probably wanted to be mugged, look at his clothes."

      • zifnab25 [he/him, any]
        ·
        2 years ago

        Honestly reminds me of how some schools handle bullying. If you're friends with the coach or the VP or the designated school hog patrol, you can get away with anything shy of murder because the other kid was asking for it. But pushing back on the entitled brats will get you expelled.

        Wouldn't be surprised if the number of reported muggings also skew heavily rich and white.

        • GreenTeaRedFlag [any]
          ·
          2 years ago

          You remember that Scott Adam tweet about being mugged of $5,000 6 or 8 times? I don't think that happens to women or POC.

      • Dirt_Owl [comrade/them, they/them]
        ·
        2 years ago

        [CW]

        Also dudes don't tend to be harassed in ways like stalking and being followed home. Or having a group of dudes walking behind you discussing what they're going to "do" to you.

        When I was a 15 year old girl I remember being at a party and a guy loudly banging on the bathroom door I was in while I was peeing. He was screaming at me to let him because he "knew I was into him" in for half an hour before he gave up and left. That's not exactly a crime but it still fucks you up. Especially as a kid.

        • wtypstanaccount04 [he/him]
          ·
          2 years ago

          WTF :what-the-hell:

          why are there guys like this :thonk-cri:

          Have a big hug :meow-hug:

        • GreenTeaRedFlag [any]
          ·
          2 years ago

          I hate constantly being surprised by more ways society, men in particular, make life hard for women or people who look like women.

          And that story is just awful. I can't imagine going through that.