This is a long article that goes into multiple stories. This is about kids aged 14-17 get labeled as abusers in their schools for various reasons. One got drunk and showed someone a nude of his girlfriend. Another guy touched a girls waist at a middle school dance. There's a lot more context but both guys got labeled abusers. At this school if your name gets written on the girls bathroom wall as part of the abuser list, or if someone makes a callout post on instagram about you, a large group of students starts harassing you and anyone who dares to be friendly to you. Eventually everyone knows not to talk to you and plenty of dudes will try to demonstrate their virtue by bullying the shit out of you. Students hold walkouts complaining that the "abusers" are still allowed to set foot the school. Kids make sure the abusers are not allowed to be a part of any clubs or out of school communities.

The accusations of abuse are incredibly vague and the stories keep on morphing. Eventually anyone on the list gets put in the same boat as dudes like Brock Turner. Also almost all the guys on the list are black/brown. Some of the guys own that they did something wrong, but there is no way forward for forgiveness. If you did something wrong you are a bad guy and thats it.

Here are some excerpts.

A girl walked up and said hello. “She’s canceled too,” Diego said. That girl’s boyfriend’s name, he explained, had been on the bathroom wall, and she didn’t break up with him. It later came out that his name had been written entirely by mistake. His accuser meant a different kid with the same first name. But it didn’t matter. The photo spread. The story turned into he kidnapped someone and ***** them at gunpoint.

Around lunchtime, another student, this one in braids, overalls, and a black beanie, sat down with Diego. “She’s canceled, too,” he said. At the start of the school year — her sophomore year — she had made a comment to a new Black friend about his “monkey ears.” The remark was dumb, full of implicit racial bias. She caught herself in the moment and apologized. The two discussed it. Then, on the second day of school, her second day in a building with students since the middle of eighth grade, he called her a racist in a crowded hallway. Now, despite all the public and private apologies she had made, all the months of therapy and reading, she was still “that racist kid” and probably would be until she graduated in two years.

Thoughts? I always thought cancelled non public figures kinda sketch. This whole article just makes me glad I don't have to interact with Zoomers that often anymore. When I was a senior in college I met some freshmen that acted like they had come from schools like this. Absolutely deranged.

      • Cromalin [she/her]
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        3 years ago

        i don't know what happened there. i don't think i fully buy this version of events, given the clear bias on display in the article, and even if it's true there's nothing there that's worse than things that happened when i was in high school. things like this have been happening for a long time.

        in this article we know for sure that: a) the guy did what he was accused of, and b) what he was accused of was a legitimately awful thing. i don't know if diego deserved what happened here, and it seems like some of the other people mentioned definitely didn't deserve what they got, but worse has been going on for a long time. and i haven't seen articles like this printed about every instance of a 16 year old needing to move out of the state because they had a bad break up and their ex posted revenge porn

      • BringMeExtra [xe/xem,fae/faer]
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        3 years ago

        People learn what’s wrong and what’s right from experience. From making mistakes as kids. Throwing away the whole person for their first mistake is stupid

        Having your nudes shared around the school by a shitty misogynist is not a "first mistake". People not putting up with abusive behavior is a good thing

        • StewartCopelandsDad [he/him]
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          3 years ago

          I don't think that's true. Delete your socials, that shit won't follow you to college unless there were published news articles about it. Post graduation, many of my high school classmates deleted all their socials and (still) have no online presence whatsoever. Wouldn't know them from Adam.