ItalianMessiah [he/him]

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Cake day: July 29th, 2020

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  • It's a common thing for ND people to do as it allows us a a way to demonstrate empathy. The problem is that most NTs can interpret it as being off topic or making it about yourself. What they probably want in the conversation is to vent/express their emotions to another person. If you bring up a similar event that happened to you, they don't get that opportunity.

    A good way to channel that impulse is to bring it up briefly and then immediately bring the topic back to them. Show them that you understand but still keep the conversation centered around them and their feelings.

    "Hey, my mom died recently so I'm not feeling great."

    "I'm so sorry, my mom died last year so I know what you're going through. How are you holding up, do you need anything?

    Not NT but halfway decent at "translating" my thoughts into socially acceptable behavior.



  • Respectfully, this is completely reversing how we should be looking at this. Rather than seeing what good someone has done and then choosing to "claim" them. We should instead look to see what good we can do by ideologically "claiming" someone.

    Nikolay Bauman slept with a comrade's wife and then bullied her to death once she became pregnant. He is the definition of a problematic figure but he was held up as a martyr by the Soviets. The reason, his death helped inspire revolutionary action and spread their ideals further.

    Luigi Mangione is infinitely less problematic and can also be used for revolutionary ends. Realpolitik always trumps ideological purity. If putting him an stamp or t-shirt helps get us healthcare, I can make peace with his less based views. We do not need to support every part of him in order to support his actions on that day.






  • I agree with a lot of what others have to say but what makes me upset is how no one gives a shit about it. People will pay lip service to the idea of loosening these norms but the vast majority of people still expect it. Even among more progressive people, they won't make you a pariah but they'll still treat you differently. It's just like everyone agrees that women should be allowed to have both a career and children. But in practice the woman is expected to take on the burden of childcare. People can say that men should allowed to be emotional but if they catch you crying then you're forever something different in their eyes.

    I've talked with a lot of my friends and I genuinely believe a lot of men are aware of how toxic these behaviors are. But the second they get in front of their partners they're back to that cold, confident mask. Most young men understand it's bullshit but they see it as a requirement for relationships and societal respect. While there are always exceptions, I wouldn't say they're wrong.










  • The point of not listening to rules and norms is so you can pass actual policy, not get your dumbfuck son out of trouble.

    Also, as much as I hate Trump, not even he did this kind of shit yet. Most of his nepotism pardons were for people who already served their jail time. He never did it (as far as I know) to help someone avoid jail time. Now Trump could unironically pardon his family for a crime they committed before they see a day in jail and that wouldn't even be defying the norms set by Back to Democracy Biden.

    Democrats do not want actual policy passed, they just want the same "Fuck you" that Republicans get when they violate the rules. They have become in word and slightly less atrocious deeds, Blue Maga.



  • ItalianMessiah [he/him]tochapotraphouseSaw a weird cat
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    24 days ago

    I walked up to a front porch with a bunch of kitties on that I pass by regularly. There were 4 cats and a possum just chilling in the cool autumn air. At least until my approach woke up the cats which then proceeded to chase the possum away.

    I just wanted to pet the cats. kitty-cri-screm