I'm married and unfortunately for my poor wife I have some kind of hole in my brain that doesn't allow me to notice or care about things being tidy or organized. I'll often get asked why I didn't pick up the trash that was in my path through the apartment or if I noticed the garbage is getting piled up.
I will always do chores when asked, I have no objection to handling the necessary labor of managing a household. The problem is my wife doesn't want to have to ask and I want her to be happier.
I often will try to motivate myself to take stock of each room I'm in before i leave and try to leave it cleaner but after maybe a day or two it's out of my mind. I just don't get any dopamine from things being clean and it's hard to form a habit.
Before I lived with someone else I basically never cleaned until it was severely impacting my daily life, did a big clean that took like an entire weekend, then just let it get just as bad.
How does one break this kind of behaviour? Some kind of shock therapy? Am I a lost cause? My current plan is to write a list of chores and things to check after work before settling in for the night but I'm skeptical as it's not the first chore list I've made.
Rule 1: NOTHING belongs on the floor except for furniture. Things go on things on the floor, things don’t go on the floor.
Rule 2: Make your bed. Starting doing that has made a huge improvement to me looking around my apartment
Rule 3: Don’t leave dishes around or in the sink. Either put them in the dishwasher asap or wash them.
Rule 4: Just wipe down surfaces occasionally. Kitchen and bathroom counters? Bleach sprays and wipe down, for kitchen basically every day, for bathroom like every week. Similar goes for coffee tables, desks, anything that just builds up gunk over time
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“Clean your room” is literally the one correct statement he’s ever made
That's his hook. He gets you to join his room-cleaning cult, and before you know it you're listening to his three hour long lectures and agitating to "clean" all of society. Don't fall for it.
Which is why you should literally never read or listen to a thing he says and just listen to me telling you to clean your god damn room
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After my messy hoarder girlfriend moved out and then I had a roach infestation (not related to anything me or my roommate did) I’ve become a little bit of a clean freak tbh, and I will sometimes get in a hyper focus where I will clean for like 3 hours and won’t be satisfied till my entire apartment is sparkling