Friendly reminder that emotional labour means "that thing waiters and retail workers have to do to pretend to be happy in a shit job noone likes" not "being kind to your loved ones."
yeah it's an awful and overly simplistic term for the real phenomenon of one-sided relationships, and once again i am asking that we consider how the medium of internet posts overvalues the message that love ought to be entirely effortless and stress-free
Yeah its very damaging especially for young people the way media portrays "good relationships" as being constantly stimulating, always saying the perfect thing, very little in the way of arguments or disagreements, etc. So many young people are confused and feel like shit because they can't come up with some new conversation topic or whatever. It's okay to chill in silence around loved ones, really is very normal
for sure, although in another sense it's kind of how it's always been, except that the internal pressure of the fear of being known and accepted was countered by the external pressure of heteronormative social expectations, so that, even disregarding widespread domestic abuse, people would feel obligated to struggle for love, or at least security.
As western media has secularized, a lot of the tropes we normally would have associated with godly love have become associated with romantic love, which is itself conflated with sexual attraction and platonic love
I believe Arlie Hochschild, who coined the term 'emotional labor', recognized this disparity early on and used the term 'emotional work' as the alternative term. It has historically been true (esp of black women who rarely got to be 'homemakers') that women are expected to provide a disproportionate amount of care, aid, and physical labor at home as well as in the workplace, which is one of the primary topics of Angela Davis's On Women, Race, and Class.
Friendly reminder that emotional labour means "that thing waiters and retail workers have to do to pretend to be happy in a shit job noone likes" not "being kind to your loved ones."
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Yeah thats true but thats still not what the term "emotional labour" is for.
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yeah it's an awful and overly simplistic term for the real phenomenon of one-sided relationships, and once again i am asking that we consider how the medium of internet posts overvalues the message that love ought to be entirely effortless and stress-free
Yeah its very damaging especially for young people the way media portrays "good relationships" as being constantly stimulating, always saying the perfect thing, very little in the way of arguments or disagreements, etc. So many young people are confused and feel like shit because they can't come up with some new conversation topic or whatever. It's okay to chill in silence around loved ones, really is very normal
The most accurate representation of relationships in media
mine always be like
for sure, although in another sense it's kind of how it's always been, except that the internal pressure of the fear of being known and accepted was countered by the external pressure of heteronormative social expectations, so that, even disregarding widespread domestic abuse, people would feel obligated to struggle for love, or at least security.
i think what we need has not yet fully been born.
As western media has secularized, a lot of the tropes we normally would have associated with godly love have become associated with romantic love, which is itself conflated with sexual attraction and platonic love
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I believe Arlie Hochschild, who coined the term 'emotional labor', recognized this disparity early on and used the term 'emotional work' as the alternative term. It has historically been true (esp of black women who rarely got to be 'homemakers') that women are expected to provide a disproportionate amount of care, aid, and physical labor at home as well as in the workplace, which is one of the primary topics of Angela Davis's On Women, Race, and Class.
What if I’ve commodified my relationships with my loved ones?
then you are fully Germanized and integrated into the capitalist system.
Here's your complimentary jar of Helmann's, make sure none of your parasitic rats we call "children" take more than their daily lot's worth
And don't even think about feeding your kids' "friends"