Being clear about what you want and not wasting people's time is exhibiting good social skills. Poor social skills is stringing someone along who you ultimately won't want to meet up with because you're not attracted to them.
You claim that being short is routinely derided, but if you're counting this kind of behaviour as deriding honestly it's kind of hard to take the claim seriously.
IDK comrade I think this kind of reasoning tends toward a kind of incel logic where men are just supposed to get women independent of what women actually want.
Being open and honest about your desires and deal-breakers is a way to be considerate about people's feelings. Treating that as some sort of personal attack is bringing a lot of your own baggage to the table.
And FWIW I didn't say it is incel logic, but it trends in that direction.
How is it shaming for women to express a preference in appearance?
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Being clear about what you want and not wasting people's time is exhibiting good social skills. Poor social skills is stringing someone along who you ultimately won't want to meet up with because you're not attracted to them.
You claim that being short is routinely derided, but if you're counting this kind of behaviour as deriding honestly it's kind of hard to take the claim seriously.
IDK comrade I think this kind of reasoning tends toward a kind of incel logic where men are just supposed to get women independent of what women actually want.
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Being open and honest about your desires and deal-breakers is a way to be considerate about people's feelings. Treating that as some sort of personal attack is bringing a lot of your own baggage to the table.
And FWIW I didn't say it is incel logic, but it trends in that direction.
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