For a human attribute that is routinely derided, which I believe height for men is, I think it is an asshole move for someone to just put that out there. Especially since it's pretty early in the discussion. You're probably not going to match and depending on the app, the height is very likely listed.
Like, you can have social skills and for someone on a dating app, you should probably have social skills.
Being clear about what you want and not wasting people's time is exhibiting good social skills. Poor social skills is stringing someone along who you ultimately won't want to meet up with because you're not attracted to them.
You claim that being short is routinely derided, but if you're counting this kind of behaviour as deriding honestly it's kind of hard to take the claim seriously.
IDK comrade I think this kind of reasoning tends toward a kind of incel logic where men are just supposed to get women independent of what women actually want.
IDK comrade I think this kind of reasoning tends toward a kind of incel logic where men are just supposed to get women independent of what women actually want.
100%, asking people to be considerate about people's feelings when rejecting them is Incel logic.
Being open and honest about your desires and deal-breakers is a way to be considerate about people's feelings. Treating that as some sort of personal attack is bringing a lot of your own baggage to the table.
And FWIW I didn't say it is incel logic, but it trends in that direction.
How is it shaming for women to express a preference in appearance?
For a human attribute that is routinely derided, which I believe height for men is, I think it is an asshole move for someone to just put that out there. Especially since it's pretty early in the discussion. You're probably not going to match and depending on the app, the height is very likely listed.
Like, you can have social skills and for someone on a dating app, you should probably have social skills.
Being clear about what you want and not wasting people's time is exhibiting good social skills. Poor social skills is stringing someone along who you ultimately won't want to meet up with because you're not attracted to them.
You claim that being short is routinely derided, but if you're counting this kind of behaviour as deriding honestly it's kind of hard to take the claim seriously.
IDK comrade I think this kind of reasoning tends toward a kind of incel logic where men are just supposed to get women independent of what women actually want.
100%, asking people to be considerate about people's feelings when rejecting them is Incel logic.
Being open and honest about your desires and deal-breakers is a way to be considerate about people's feelings. Treating that as some sort of personal attack is bringing a lot of your own baggage to the table.
And FWIW I didn't say it is incel logic, but it trends in that direction.
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