I have ADHD and I don't use it as an excuse for why I shouldn't be expected to do my dishes or flush the toilet

  • abc [he/him, comrade/them]
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    2 years ago

    As another actual person with ADHD, I would be willing to bet that each and every OP of these specific type of tweets (the "actually its pretty ableist to get mad at me for ordering UberEats every night, I've never learnt to cook because I have ADHD" ones) just basically googled Signs you may have ADHD and clicked on the first Ten things every person with ADHD HATES style article they found; which obviously leads to them coming to the conclusion that every negative personality trait or piss-poor habit they have is ACTUALLY the fault of the ADHD they've had since conception.

    I'm sure a bunch of these people, especially the goddamn 'I use disposable plates & utensils because doing the dishes is impossible for me with ADHD' woman that has stuck in my mind rent-free since I saw it like a year ago, legitimately do have some sort of issues but.... :cringe:

    • kristina [she/her]
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      2 years ago

      i got pretty terrible ptsd which effects my eating and cleaning habits a ton but i just eat meal replacement shakes and throw the cups i use rather lazily in the washer and run it even with other clean stuff in there lmao. making actual food all the time was hellish and would end up with me losing a ton of weight which isnt good because im already dangerously thin and tiny

      just gotta remember that being perfect is the enemy of getting things done when your brain is all fucked. find the things that bother you and fix them. like the OP should probably install an autoflusher if its such a big deal

      • abc [he/him, comrade/them]
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        2 years ago

        throw the cups i use rather lazily in the washer and run it even with other clean stuff in there lmao

        I do the same thing basically, but with the 3 tiny corelle 'salad' plates & bowls I use for everything, baking sheets/pans, and my air-fryer basket specifically because otherwise I will rinse everything off halfheartedly in the sink and let it pile up in a semi-clean state in the dishwasher until it hits max capacity before going 'wtf where are all the clean dishes' so I feel you on that. :che-smile:

        • kristina [she/her]
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          2 years ago

          yeah theres a trick to get around almost any mental disability, you just gotta explore what is going on and how to avoid it. of course it also usually costs money, which is the really unfortunate bit. ive personally invested a lot of my money into home automation stuff and avoid doing things that could possibly make things dirty or prevent things from getting dirty. if doing something requires more than 1-2 steps or a huge time investment i go a little catatonic so being able to press a button to fix a thing is the way to go for sure.

    • Mardoniush [she/her]
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      2 years ago

      Using disposable plates would be fine if, you know, they weren't insufferable about it. I have trouble doing the dishes myself, though that's usually overscheduling my time to exhaustion rather than "can't remember", but over the years I've developed a way around it via a complex system known as "the restaurant".

      I don't blame anyone for their method of keeping their shit together as long as it's together and preferably flushed.