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  • Nakoichi [they/them]
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    4 years ago

    I sorta ghosted a girl because after our first date which we got along great on I immediately got super self conscious about my social awkwardness and the fact my place is a fucking mess and I'm depressed all the time. Shit sucks man. Really good at the flirting part with strangers for some reason can't take more than like two steps further.

    • jmichigan_frog [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      Not to get too personal, but have you considered that you may be reluctant/afraid to get close to people? Those periods come and go for me. Attachment theory informs attachment praxis.

      • Nakoichi [they/them]
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        4 years ago

        Yeah I've had some rough endings to relationships in the past and didn't exactly have a healthy upbringing. The last one ended up with me cutting contacts with a lot of close friends because I couldn't bare to stay in contact with my ex, even indirectly.

        • jmichigan_frog [he/him]
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          4 years ago

          I can relate to an unhealthy upbringing! Recognizing that your emotional patterns are the product of challenges you’ve faced is a big step forward in finding something you like.