This might be better suited for a therapist, but why do you hate it when women like what you like? What justifies it in your own head? Is it just a knee-jerk reaction? When I have knee-jerk reactions that I know are not right, I try to challenge myself and figure out what's at the root of it. A therapist is good for this when it's a deeper issue. Often I find, simply challenging myself on my own reaction once triggers something where every time I come across that scenario, I remember when I challenged myself, and it keeps me on solid ground (if that makes sense).

I'm struggling to understand why you feel the way you do, but that's just what it's like having different lives and life experiences.