I've really started to hate it when women like what I like. What can I do to change this?

    • MerryChristmas [any]
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      2 years ago

      It is hard to remember that every single person you interact with has an entire world inside their head. If you keep that in mind, you'll be okay!

      • UlyssesT [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        "The normies are NPCs" is a cognitiohazard that has been spreading around the internet lately and it's also favored by :my-hero: and related bazinga chuds so they can feel like the special chosen one main characters of epic destiny.

        • MerryChristmas [any]
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          2 years ago

          It's solipsism as folk religion, basically. It's easy to think that just because something is impossible to disprove it's true.

      • SadStruggle92 [none/use name]
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        2 years ago

        I mean I'm autistic, so I literally am not really able to incorporate that level of meta-cognition into my mental-framework on a day-to-day basis w/ regards to interacting with other people.

        So like, wtf am I supposed to do here exactly?

        • MerryChristmas [any]
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          2 years ago

          Oh I'm autistic, too! I often have to remove myself from the person/situation that's bothering me and give myself reminders - I repeat that line about "everybody has a world inside their head" like a mantra. You can come to understand these concepts from a neurodivergent framework with practice. It also helps if you can get into psychology and philosophy as special interests.

          • SadStruggle92 [none/use name]
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            2 years ago

            I guess the real question I have is how do practically live in the world like that though, and manage to have your own needs met? Cause it seems like it's impossible to really meet people at a level of reciprocity today. IDK, maybe this is just me.

            • MerryChristmas [any]
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              2 years ago

              Oh it is absolutely not just you. Don't expect reciprocity because most people won't give it to you. That's okay, you don't do it because of the response you receive - you do it because it's right and it will make you feel better to do the right thing. This goes double for us neurodivergents.

              The flipside of this is that it actually helps you to advocate for your own needs more easily. When you consider someone's personhood and their full range of experiences, you realize that asking for your needs to be met will hardly register as a blip to the other person. Your weird behaviors that you are constantly trying to mask? They stop thinking about those things two seconds after you leave the room. And so you begin to lose a little bit of that rejection sensitivity because you're able to see that their responses largely have nothing to do with you.

              Idk, this has just been my journey lately. Good luck, bud - it's a tough world for little things like us.