I've always been hesitant to try online dating because 1.) I'm a guy 2.) I look like hell 3.) the algorithm prioritizes profit.
But lately I feel like it may be easier to throw my expectations out there and cross my fingers. Seems easier than trying to speak to people in person. But then again, the human aspect sorta just disappears too and I'm now stuck in a game of numbers, and perhaps quite literally as apps line Tinder gamify their services.
Anyway, I don't have anyone I could call a close friend. Hell, I don't even have anyone to call in general lol. I'm thinking it's a bad idea to dip my toes in that crap because I have nowhere to turn when the rejections inevitably come in. Plus at least with face-to-face interactions, I can have some sort of closure (I don't really know how to articulate this part. I guess being able to read faces will give me a better chance of understanding what I did wrong vs. emotionless text on a screen).
Pre covid, my philosophy was very much "have IRL hobbies". Events, groups and meetups are/were good ways to meet people, and develop social groups that are honestly better than a date. In my city, there's a few social meetups that are kinda infamous as nearly everyone is looking for a partner.
I guess with covid, you can stick to outdoor stuff. I'm legitimately sorry for younger comrades now.
And as everyone is saying, Tinder is fucking terrible and I'd avoid it.
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Ya I'm a bit ugly. I have an OK personality and I do ok with stuff that isn't overly focused on beauty. I also suck at pubs and clubs too :shrug-outta-hecks:
What IRL hobbies do you think are good? I don't have any since I can't bring myself to go to an event where I don't know anyone
FNB, hiking, city walking, badminton, vegan food groups. I don't do the last two much with covid now. Socialist book clubs are cool too.
Some people do coffee, museum, or film events, but that's not really my thing.