My kid, my wife, and I all had COVID last month, then my kid gets the flu. He's high risk and she insists on keeping him on the swimming team where he is around other kids and can't wear a mask. I'm pretty fed up with her because I protest this and she throws my mental health issues in my face to deflect from the criticism. I basically quiet quit my marriage at this point. I'm going to be without a job in the new year and I'm dependent on her insurance for my therapy and medications. I want to just leave, but I can't. I'm feeling trapped and like I want to self harm, but I had a close relative commit suicide in 2021 and it destroyed me. I don't want to do that to my kids, but I am at my fucking limit.
Love and solidarity. I hope you can find work that gives you needed autonomy so you can take care of what you need to feel safe again. Please don't self-harm, there's a world to win.
I’m married with kids to a Bernie lib and I feel this. My spouse sounds much more understanding than yours because she has allowed us to homeschool now for years and 99% of the time doesn’t pressure us to do things around anti-maskers. (We can afford to do this because she is an RN and half my family is rich.) A few months ago I lost it at my parents’ house and for about a week everyone was trying to have me committed because if you question Biden you must be insane. (Dead serious about this and my parents also voted Bernie in the primary.) Thankfully my (even more lib) uncle is a psychiatrist—we talked on the phone for an hour and he said there was nothing wrong with me. Afterward my family relented. I found a pseudo-Marxist therapist and haven’t spoken with my parents since.
Many of our disagreements center on sending our kids back to school, and the fact that lib schools in the area have been shutting down lately because everyone is sick in our blue state hasn’t prompted any of these people to tell me that I was right all along.
And I doubt they ever will. Could be worse, the woman I previously had a kid with is a full on MAGA chud now.
We seem to have very similar situations. My wife is a CNA, I used to be an LPN, but now I work in Cybersecurity. Not rich by any stretch, but we're mostly ok. That's another point of contention, I have gone to college twice since we've been together, in 2011 for an associate's degree in IT, and just now I finished a bachelor's degree in Cybersecurity.
I encouraged her to go back to school so she doesn't have to clean shit for a living, and because our income are so lopsided now. She's not young anymore and she has hurt her back lifting, requiring physical therapy and being out of work. She does most of the child care, but tries to dictate how the money in the household is spent, while I'm the one that makes the lion's share of it. I feel taken advantage of and disregarded in my marriage. I feel very trapped and I don't want to put my child through a divorce. He's special needs, autistic, Tourette's syndrome, a few other things. I am certain I'm BPD and Bipolar type 2 asking with C-PTSD, anxiety and major depression. She won't even read a book I gave her on understanding BPD, but she'll throw it in my face and for years she didn't believe me when I told her about my childhood abuse. That's a whole other book to be written. Christo-fash parents that would punch, kick, and choke me growing up, along with verbal and financial abuse. I was a heroin addict for a few years and I've been clean for 12 years now and I have no source for it now. But I have a strong desire to use again and OD. I'm gonna talk with one of my therapists tomorrow. I can't shake the feeling of wanting to just give up and end it.
I’m very sorry to hear all of this. It’s a really tough situation you’re in and although it’s a cliche to say, there’s no easy answer. I can’t really offer much advice but feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to.
I appreciate the kind words and concern. Far more than I get at home. I just feel so disconnected from reality. I have a therapy session tomorrow. Maybe that will help a little bit.
My kid, my wife, and I all had COVID last month, then my kid gets the flu. He's high risk and she insists on keeping him on the swimming team where he is around other kids and can't wear a mask. I'm pretty fed up with her because I protest this and she throws my mental health issues in my face to deflect from the criticism. I basically quiet quit my marriage at this point. I'm going to be without a job in the new year and I'm dependent on her insurance for my therapy and medications. I want to just leave, but I can't. I'm feeling trapped and like I want to self harm, but I had a close relative commit suicide in 2021 and it destroyed me. I don't want to do that to my kids, but I am at my fucking limit.
Love and solidarity. I hope you can find work that gives you needed autonomy so you can take care of what you need to feel safe again. Please don't self-harm, there's a world to win.
I’m married with kids to a Bernie lib and I feel this. My spouse sounds much more understanding than yours because she has allowed us to homeschool now for years and 99% of the time doesn’t pressure us to do things around anti-maskers. (We can afford to do this because she is an RN and half my family is rich.) A few months ago I lost it at my parents’ house and for about a week everyone was trying to have me committed because if you question Biden you must be insane. (Dead serious about this and my parents also voted Bernie in the primary.) Thankfully my (even more lib) uncle is a psychiatrist—we talked on the phone for an hour and he said there was nothing wrong with me. Afterward my family relented. I found a pseudo-Marxist therapist and haven’t spoken with my parents since.
Many of our disagreements center on sending our kids back to school, and the fact that lib schools in the area have been shutting down lately because everyone is sick in our blue state hasn’t prompted any of these people to tell me that I was right all along.
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And I doubt they ever will. Could be worse, the woman I previously had a kid with is a full on MAGA chud now.
We seem to have very similar situations. My wife is a CNA, I used to be an LPN, but now I work in Cybersecurity. Not rich by any stretch, but we're mostly ok. That's another point of contention, I have gone to college twice since we've been together, in 2011 for an associate's degree in IT, and just now I finished a bachelor's degree in Cybersecurity.
I encouraged her to go back to school so she doesn't have to clean shit for a living, and because our income are so lopsided now. She's not young anymore and she has hurt her back lifting, requiring physical therapy and being out of work. She does most of the child care, but tries to dictate how the money in the household is spent, while I'm the one that makes the lion's share of it. I feel taken advantage of and disregarded in my marriage. I feel very trapped and I don't want to put my child through a divorce. He's special needs, autistic, Tourette's syndrome, a few other things. I am certain I'm BPD and Bipolar type 2 asking with C-PTSD, anxiety and major depression. She won't even read a book I gave her on understanding BPD, but she'll throw it in my face and for years she didn't believe me when I told her about my childhood abuse. That's a whole other book to be written. Christo-fash parents that would punch, kick, and choke me growing up, along with verbal and financial abuse. I was a heroin addict for a few years and I've been clean for 12 years now and I have no source for it now. But I have a strong desire to use again and OD. I'm gonna talk with one of my therapists tomorrow. I can't shake the feeling of wanting to just give up and end it.
I’m very sorry to hear all of this. It’s a really tough situation you’re in and although it’s a cliche to say, there’s no easy answer. I can’t really offer much advice but feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to.
I appreciate the kind words and concern. Far more than I get at home. I just feel so disconnected from reality. I have a therapy session tomorrow. Maybe that will help a little bit.