It would help if you talked to me like I'm dumb.

I might lose a male friend because they could be getting romantically attached to me after I talked to them just like they're a girl.

I grew up around mostly girls and women to the point I don't fully get why I can't tell guy friends I love them. I kept telling one "I love ya dude!" To me, that sounds the same as "I love you as a friend!"

I thought spelling "you" as "ya" and adding the word "dude" firmly said "you're in the friend-zone." But no.

This is easily not the only example of where I fucked up, but I won't know unless it's pointed out to me and explained.


I'm furious that I live in a society :amerikkka: where I can't just tell guy friends that I love them.

  • Bloobish [comrade/them]
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    2 years ago

    There's a distinction between bro-love and eros-love that guys also discuss/use (I also say love ya guys to my friends which includes guys & gals), however that kind of language is still kind of rare for men and especially from women that it can be misconstrued as affection love instead of buddy love. Also masculine culture in America especially is fucking insane and something I disliked having to deal with growing up in showing any type of affection as a man/in a masculine setting or context (affectionate masculine negging is the usual way this is expressed in an acceptable way i.e. "I love you annoying fuckers" "I hate you but I still put up with ya").