It would help if you talked to me like I'm dumb.

I might lose a male friend because they could be getting romantically attached to me after I talked to them just like they're a girl.

I grew up around mostly girls and women to the point I don't fully get why I can't tell guy friends I love them. I kept telling one "I love ya dude!" To me, that sounds the same as "I love you as a friend!"

I thought spelling "you" as "ya" and adding the word "dude" firmly said "you're in the friend-zone." But no.

This is easily not the only example of where I fucked up, but I won't know unless it's pointed out to me and explained.

I'm furious that I live in a society :amerikkka: where I can't just tell guy friends that I love them.

  • kristina [she/her]
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    2 years ago

    I dunno.

    I have women play-hit on me all the time and it is genuinely confusing for me. We all laugh and do the flirt thing and apparently thats normal. I just go with the flow and it sort of gives the same vibe as good natured ribbing.

    If that happens with a guy that isnt my bf I'd be grossed out I guess lmao :shrug-outta-hecks: I already have the best man I could ask for

    I wouldn't say the word love lightly personally. Its a very strong emotion for me, if I say I love someone its a sort of lifelong commitment for me, whether its platonic or romantic.

    I could characterize things in stereotypes but ultimately everyone is a bit different. If they took it wrong maybe drop hints youre interested in someone else.

    • boboblaw [he/him, they/them]
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      2 years ago

      Is this a variant of the wife guy phenomenon? I've been noticing that I identify your posting mainly through the effusive praise of your bf (who's amazing btw). Halfway through a post I think to myself "kristina posted this"; it's a signature style. It's sweet.

      • kristina [she/her]
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        2 years ago

        My bf is a god and I'm merely the slovenly goblin riding his coattails

    • copgutz [she/her]
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      2 years ago

      My experience with the women play-hitting on each other thing has been a sort of counter to how shitty we all were to each other because of petty jealousy as teens. Might be I'm just bad at reading when women are actually hitting on me, but when I do it's that's my intent. I've got no problem telling a friend when they look especially cute.