If people are made uncomfortable by their gender that’s a them-issue though, you deserve to exist comfortably yourself. The only reason someone could be made “uncomfortable” by an openly trans person is transphobia, and they DESERVE to be uncomfortable for that.
I think trans people are great, but I do notice I become more self-conscious about being careful to use the correct pronouns when talking about them, which I don't really have a problem with, but I also for some reason feel like I wouldn't want to make others feel like that (partly because I don't care about which ones people use, so it would be pointless). But I might have a problem with excessive people pleasing...
help shore up my confidence by constantly giving me compliments, praise, all the good stuff
I've typically found compliments make me uncomfortable (and avoid giving compliments because I don't want to make others uncomfortable). Thanks for the reminder that often people probably do like them.
Uh, why not? I think it's fine if people feel the need to be a little careful about pronouns around trans people. It's such a minimum-effort thing to consider someone's pronouns anyway, whatever. Not caring about pronouns is cool tho
Oh, yeah I didn't consider that. I'm really incredibly bad at giving compliments cause I'm awkward as fuck, but I try anyway cause Idk, it'd be cool to make someone feel nice. I get +100 dopamine and +1000 confidence when I get compliments, people do not abuse my affinity for being complimented enough. When people say my hair is amazing or that I look awesome in thigh high boots, that shit's better than any high I could achieve
I totally agree with you, but I can't help being stupid about it anyways.
When people say my hair is amazing or that I look awesome in thigh high boots, that shit’s better than any high I could achieve
Most compliments I've typically received as an egg have been related to my appearance I disliked and sometimes explicitly masculine-coded compliments. But I had no clue why I disliked them so much (nor did I get why sometimes there were exceptions where I did like them...). Also, a lot of "compliments" about being (school) smart are just backhanded insults imo and/or people presuming I look down on them. Either way, I still have the emotional feeling of compliments = bad.
I've typically found compliments make me uncomfortable (and avoid giving compliments because I don't want to make others uncomfortable). Thanks for the reminder that often people probably do like them.
I'm in the exact same boat, people being really nice to me just makes me suspicious. I usually feel like shit after getting complimented
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I think trans people are great, but I do notice I become more self-conscious about being careful to use the correct pronouns when talking about them, which I don't really have a problem with, but I also for some reason feel like I wouldn't want to make others feel like that (partly because I don't care about which ones people use, so it would be pointless). But I might have a problem with excessive people pleasing...
I've typically found compliments make me uncomfortable (and avoid giving compliments because I don't want to make others uncomfortable). Thanks for the reminder that often people probably do like them.
Uh, why not? I think it's fine if people feel the need to be a little careful about pronouns around trans people. It's such a minimum-effort thing to consider someone's pronouns anyway, whatever. Not caring about pronouns is cool tho
Oh, yeah I didn't consider that. I'm really incredibly bad at giving compliments cause I'm awkward as fuck, but I try anyway cause Idk, it'd be cool to make someone feel nice. I get +100 dopamine and +1000 confidence when I get compliments, people do not abuse my affinity for being complimented enough. When people say my hair is amazing or that I look awesome in thigh high boots, that shit's better than any high I could achieve
I totally agree with you, but I can't help being stupid about it anyways.
Most compliments I've typically received as an egg have been related to my appearance I disliked and sometimes explicitly masculine-coded compliments. But I had no clue why I disliked them so much (nor did I get why sometimes there were exceptions where I did like them...). Also, a lot of "compliments" about being (school) smart are just backhanded insults imo and/or people presuming I look down on them. Either way, I still have the emotional feeling of compliments = bad.
It's fine, just dw about it :) IMO it's a basic social courtesy to be considerate of people's pronouns, and everyone deserves it.
Oh yeah that would be less than pleasant
I totally get why you'd dislike compliments if that's been your experience of them, which sucks 
sorry...
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I'm in the exact same boat, people being really nice to me just makes me suspicious. I usually feel like shit after getting complimented